Recently my spouse and I were invited to our friend’s PhD graduation and small party. My spouse was having a casual conversation with another friend about the said graduation because that friend used to work with the graduate. The latter friend wasn’t invited to the graduation. The friend asked if they could go to the graduation. We asked the graduate and they said yes. The problem is the latter friend only invited themselves and not their spouse. The spouse is now angry with me because I didn’t ask the graduate if they could go too. I didn’t ask the graduate because A) The friend only invited themselves B) It wasn’t my graduation to be inviting other people. Was I wrong not to think to invite the spouse to a graduation and party I wasn’t hosting just because their significant other invited themselves?
Tell him to bring his spouse, what they gonna do kick them out. Make sure they bring a hostess gift or wine or something. And don’t volunteer to do that anymore.
Nailed it in one.
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Yeesh. If I’m cadging an invite to someone’s shindig, of COURSE I ask to be allowed to include my wife. I won’t be asking “See if you can get me on the guest list,” it’ll be “See if you can get US on the guest list.”
Did he really ask for just himself?
Beckdawreck is right; and next time tell him “Here’s the host’s contact information. Ask him yourself.”
From a graduation ceremony? In my experience, seating can be limited and you need a ticket to get in. For our son’s HS graduation we got 4 tickets - enough for parents and a sibling or grandparent or two, but that was it.
Now, if it is some huge outdoor shindig with thousands of chairs set up, maybe it won’t be as controlled. But I wouldn’t assume it’s an “anyone can show up and get in” affair.
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Welcome tot he SDMB, caligirl66.
Please take the time to read the forum descriptions. Since this is not a question about the message board itself, let’s move it to IMHO (from ATMB).
A limited seating graduation ceremony can be problematic. The party after, I would think a +1 would be fine.
I,too, am confused about the “ask for me” vs “ask for me and my spouse”. Did they not make that clear to you? Did you just assume?