Thanks for posting this, I enjoyed pondering it. I think you are right that there is a real cultural difference here, and it is weird to see how “Dutch” I am in those respects. I’d probably feel different if I had been raised in the USA. Makes you wonder how much of one’s identity is really one’s own.
For instance, and as an addendum to my above points, the Dutch tend to see the government as inept and yet as the one who “ought to do something about it”. At the same time, we don’t really, deeply believe in the strenght and rights of the individual either. I guess the Dutch attitude can be summed up as: “Both government and individuals can be inept, so we need to make sure they control each other and have a system of checks and balances”. The American attitude, if I see it correctly, is more convinced strengh lies in the individual. Or at least a belief that the individual should be strong and able to fight for himself, and if they don’t, that reeks of a moral failing.
An example is the infamous Dutch case of three year old “Savannah”, some years ago. The story was all over the Dutch national newspaper. Here’s the story. A troubled mom, maltreating her kid, had been under surveillance from social services for years, and her kids had been placed in foster homes a couple times but always placed back again. The the mom and her boyfriend, who thought three-year old Savanna was being whiny and irritating, stuffed a washcloth in her mouth, duct taped her mouth and locked her in a closet. The girl died, the mother tried to get rid of the body, and was arrested.
What I want to draw attention to, in this gruesome case, is the public reaction. I think the American reaction to such a case would have been among the lines of outrage at the mom and cries for her to be punished. There was some of that from the Dutch public, but mainly the feeling was along the lines of “Yeah yeah, of course let’s arrest that mom and her boyfriend. But why, oh why didn’t Social Services do a better job? Dozens of workers were on that case, and they KNEW that woman was a shitty mother, and shitty mothers will be just that! They should have known this was coming!”.
I’m not very sure myself what my point is if I combine this post with my previous one, though. I guess the Dutch value the right of biological parents to raise their kids just as highly as the USA does, even if that puts the child at risk. The difference then remains that the Dutch put a slightly less high value on the parental right to raise a kid according to the parents religion.
I’m not saying one is better then the other. It’s just cultural differences, and those are interesting if one wants to have an objective look at one’s own culture.