Is finding an adult young enough to be your child attractive disgusting?

In My Humble Opinion
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I think I joked in another thread about “The Bachelor and the Bobby-Soxer” and yeah, Myrna Loy WAS all that. The other night I popped in the DVD just to laugh at the Shirley Temple scenes. I noticed:

  1. NO. I’m Not attracted to Shirley Temple. But I also noticed …

  2. In that movie, Shirley Temple is a Dead Ringer for Scarlett Johansson.

I’m not sure, but this may lead to …

  1. Scarlett Johansson- If you’ve ever lusted for her, you’re a Dirty Dirty Pedophile!!!
    (…ok, I’m still working out that last part, but until its worked out, you should choose cold showers and self-flagellation over lusting after that poor, poor teen aged starlet.

What? You looked it up and she’s almost 32??? For Shame, You Masher!!!)

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The most immediate and obvious answer that springs to mind is that men who treat women that way do not give a flying fuck whether they are uncomfortable and are only likely to listen to other men. A woman speaking up about harassment is significantly more likely to be regarded as overemotional/oversensitive/overreacting <insert tired misogynist stereotype here> and to perhaps garner even more harassment, whereas another man speaking to him might actually make him reconsider his behavior.

I mean, I’m not just spitballing here. The research indicates that putting the onus on the victim to stop harassment or abuse is ineffective. I work for a sexual assault and domestic violence shelter that has a Prevention Ed division, and I write grants to justify what we’re doing, so we’re working on techniques grounded in the best evidence. Prevention Ed programs for this sort of thing are increasingly beginning to focus on bystander intervention, and it works way better to teach compassionate people intervention skills than it works to lecture future rapists and future victims.

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This is also reflected in the way many men who hit on women will not respond to repeatedly being told that she’s not interested, but will respond to being told that she has a boyfriend.

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I admit, I had to look. While I wouldn’t say Dead Ringer, holy crap! pretty damn close. Do Shirley and Scarlet sound similar, have similar mannerisms and movements? (I’ve never actually seen a Shirley Temple movie)

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I was really surprised too (granted Shirley Temple was pretty grown up when she played that movie role).

I’m no expert on Ms. Temple, but it wouldn’t it be funny if on one of Scarlet’s movie sets someone absentmindedly whistled this under their breath? :smiley:

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I would think so, and I imagine there are plenty of people in the movie industry who would too. I wonder if anyone has ever pointed out the similarity in appearance to Scarlet.
And if they have similar mannerisms and movements that would move that similarity into “Dead Ringer” for sure.

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Maybe its a spare ace up her sleeve.

But you bring up an interesting point: Are there “people in hollywood” who actually pick and choose faces to cast simply based on the similarity to faces that were bankable in yesteryear?

Not that we’d ever know…

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I was away from this thread. In my work situation, Craig was clearly not a creepy guy. None of the women, to my knowledge (and in that startup I had a good rapport with almost everyone), were worried about him other than his breast fixation. @Anaamika and others, regarding confronting him directly, it was neither needed nor called for. If the women felt threatened or concerned, or even a little creeped out about it, and since I worked closely with Craig, if that were the case then yes I would have said something.

My girlfriend, the one that Craig made that comment about, was not concerned at all and just brushed him off as harmless in that regard, and otherwise was socially friendly with him. We were a small company back then, often like a family (low turnover, a work-hard play-hard have-fun environment), we got along very well. It was a tight-knit group, we loved what we were doing and we did it very well. Anyway, that to describe the environment, the closeness of all of us,

Craig was otherwise a jovial, fun-loving guy in a kid sense. I described him as a child in a man’s body. And, of course, the women could have confronted him directly.

HR? We were so small we did not have a dedicated HR group back in the early days, let alone an employee. Now we have an HR department, VP and a Director or two. By the time we hired any HR people, Craig had moved on for other reasons, mainly his low performance.

Hopefully that describes the situation. Craig was basically harmless. Yes what they did to him was uncalled for, unprofessional (okay, fixating on tits isn’t very professional), and yes it was passive aggressive.

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I believe you are thinking of Svengali. I could be wrong…

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Someone young enough to be my daughter, no.

Someone young enough to be my granddaughter, yes.