Their worthless. If she must smoke in a room mount an exhaust fan where she smokes. If it’s not by an external wall it is going to have to be. Won’t make a lot of difference in any case but the alternatives are useless. I tried Sharper Image air cleaners,you know the 300 hundred dollar variety, with poor results. Even still. after quitting smoking I had to repaint the entire room and clean everything in it.
I’d tell her no smoking in the house. It lowers the value of your home if nothing else.
Why on earth can’t she take it outside? You live in Florida for chrissake.
Knowing how difficult it is to quit smoking, there is no way I could live with someone who smoked indoors. Period.
Og forbid that one person in a long marriage (don’t know if this is the OP’s case) decides to change something about themselves. And people do it all the time. People change jobs, for instance, and expect their spouse to move sometimes or accommodate their hours, etc.
In the scheme of things, this is a pretty small accommodation. He’s not asking her to quit smoking, just not do it in the house.
I say go ahead and ask. Unfortunately, the odds are not that great with compliance with things that involve addiction. I just read that the President-elect promised to his wife to quit smoking if he ran for the Presidency, and he still hasn’t done it.
Then he should ask her to take that shit outside.
Of course, it’s going to be a very long time before the house stops stinking.
It’s fair to ask. It’s also fair for her to say it’s her house, too, which it is.
Confining it to one room (which we did, for years) doesn’t really work. The whole house still smells like smoke, and that one room will really reek, and everything in it will reek. Forever.
But the thing about smoking outside. Years ago I had a job at a newspaper, and in those days everybody smoked–or so it seemed. The people who didn’t were the exception. Then we got told we all had to take it outside. This disrupted everything, because now, instead of smoking while we were typing, taking notes, interviewing people on the phone, editing our stuff, we had to take a break. There was a giant uprising on the news side. For some reason the advertising people didn’t care at all.
So if she smokes while she’s wiping the counters, doing the laundry, paying the bills, it will be more of a change. If she takes a break to smoke, then taking the break outside instead of in shouldn’t be too onerous, considering your location.
–blushes
…AND I’m a non-smoker! 
And if she says no?
Bingo! That’s why you have to actually talk to her and not just make demands. It is a totally reasonable topic for discussion though.
It is hard for me to comply with my own rules of no smoking in the house especially when I’m in an intense tournament of online spades or a chess match. I just have learned to live with it.
My friends know that there will be smokeless poker nights in my house. They have adapted.
Beer free nights though would mean I would not have any friends.
To the OP. Just try to suggest options that don’t come across as shrill. I don’t blame you one little bit for not wanting the house stinking. And I congratulate you for quitting the nasty habit. I wish that I had the will to stop.
That is a tough call; yes, you have changed the parameters of your relationship, but no, you shouldn’t be forced to breathe smoke that you find repulsive, especially after you have done the work to quit and get healthier. I think your wife is being a little callous of your wishes, but that could be coming from her feeling like a big, fat loser because she isn’t doing something you have done (that she knows she should do).
Bottom line - fair to ask her to quit smoking in the house. You don’t have much of a leg to stand on if she refuses, though. (I don’t understand how non-smokers live with smokers. That is such a very, very nasty habit.)
Fair to ask? Of course not. Fair to demand? Yes, I think so.
My wife and I have a similar situation except that I still smoke while she’s the one who quit. Our compromise is that I’m only allowed to smoke in “my” room (most often, with the door closed). She’ll also make allowances when we’re in the car together on long trips; I refrain from smoking on shorter trips.
Works for us…
Smoker here. We started smoking only outside/in a specified room several years ago when we all tried to quit at once. That didn’t work, but we never went back to smoking in the house.
One of my partners quit smoking a bit over a year ago. She spends a lot of time in the basement working on projects; the basement is where we go to smoke if it’s bad weather out. So far, she doesn’t mind people smoking around her, but if she requested the basement go non-smoking because it bothered her, we’d move smoking out to the garage or somewhere.
So I’d have to vote for “fair to ask and expect a reasonable compromise”. If you’re trying to demand that you get your way, or your wife is refusing to discuss the issue and/or make reasonable accomodations, then I’d say you’ve got a lot bigger problems in your marriage than this.
Is there anything you can do for her? Something you do that she doesn’t like? I think it might be easier and less demanding if you made it a quid pro quo.
That strikes me as a dumb promise to make. Are there many projects more stressful and wearing than campaigning for President? Isn’t that kind of a bad time to try to quit smoking? Of course, once he’s sworn in the stress level isn’t exactly going to go down…
I think it’s fair to ask; that doesn’t mean she’ll say yes. But it would certainly be a very considerate, loving, and reasonable thing for her to do.
Thanks for all of the great replies. The thing is that I was always real pissy towards non-smokers who complained about the smell of smoke. I couldn’t understand what the big deal was.
Then, after about a week, your sense of smell starts to come back. After not smoking for a week, my wife brought home a canteloupe and I started eating it. It tasted like candy it was so sweet. I asked her if she got it from a fresh food market. Nope, just a regular canteloupe from the grocery store.
Then after about two months of being smoke free, the smell of cigarettes just absolutely repulsed me. Yes, I am the one who changed the status-quo, so I can’t really expect her to change with me.
But, the bad thing is that I don’t need an alarm clock anymore. My wife gets up a half and hour before me, and lights up in the kitchen. It wakes me up every morning.
You’d better be careful. I might forget that we are both married and make a pitch for you.
Dude, just remember if you get her to compromise on this issue she will get you back in spades.
Sorry to throw a wet blanket on it though.
I’m mostly kidding, but you need to find the best time to bring it up or couch time is sure to follow for you in your very near future.
No. You’re right. I’ve been married long enough to know that. 
I’ve spent so much time on the couch that a real bed just wouldn’t feel right.
Honestly, from the wording in the OP, it sounds like you’ve ALREADY asked her, or somehow suggested the idea in a form other than a question, and she said no.
So, what are you really asking us? A better way to ask? Whether it’s ok for you to back off the idea? Should it be your right to live in a smoke-free environment?
Can we get a little deeper here? She knows what you want, and she doesn’t want it. Are you asking what to do next?
Maybe you should step out of the house whenever she smokes – maybe that will drive her crazy and she’ll offer to switch roles.
When I first met my (then-future) in-laws, I was a smoker, and so was my future father-in-law. Whenever we visited Denmark, we stay in their home, and we did so several times while I was still a smoker.
About a year and a half later, I quit smoking. We visited them a couple more times, and it always burned my eyes and throat, but I dealt with it – it’s his home, afterall.
Then on one visit my throat and lungs got so raw that I ended up with pneumonia. I spent the last 3 days of my vacation in bed with a raging fever, coughing up green blech, and even missed my mother-in-law’s big bash for her 60th birthday. Then on the last day, I passed it to my husband.
After that experience, I told him we’d have to stay at a hotel, because I simply couldn’t risk getting that sick again. He said his mother would be absolutely heartbroken, but what choice did I have? So he talked to his mother and told her I wouldn’t ask his father not to smoke in is own home, but we’d have to stay somewhere else, and she said, “Absolutely not! He can darn well smoke outside!” And that’s what he does now, every time we visit.
So the moral of the story is, maybe you should get pneumonia!
Otherwise, I have no advice. I do think your wife is being unreasonable and insensitive, though. I wish you luck!