I usually text one friend, give them like 30 minutes to respond, and if they don’t then I’ll text someone else, etc. But that takes a long time. Maybe I should text three friends separately. But then suppose one writes back a minute later and I call her, and another writes back a minute after that but now I’m already on the phone. Now I’m ignoring someone who was nice enough to write back right away. What’s the proper etiquette?
Thank you.
I text multiple people simultaneously all the time, never thought about it.
Once, bored, I sent out the text, “WHERE THE FUCK ARE YOU???” to 20 or so friends. I stopped being bored pretty quickly.
Just realize you talk on your phone as well as text. I never talk.
I’m a little confused. Are you texting them just to ask them to call you? Or are you texting to ask them a question or say hi?
Texting because I want to talk to someone and say hi, and would be equally happy no matter who it is. I usually don’t just call someone without first texting to see if they’re around.
Sometimes I chat via text to 2 or 3 people at the same time. Harder to do on the phone.
If I’m looking for someone to call, I don’t immediately look for someone else. But most of my friends don’t socialize over the phone, so I wouldn’t be calling multiple people anyway.
Maybe you need a text group cultivated towards your friends who are most often up for saying hi.
Text back to the second responder “Hi there! Oops sorry, just got sidetracked onto another call, but can I call you back in half an hour?”, or whatever alternative phrasing of that general sentiment is appropriate for young-people-speak these days. No need to mention that the “sidetracking” current call is one that you solicited from another friend at the same time you were texting her.
The message you want to get across is (a) you’re glad to hear from her and are looking forward to talking to her, but (b) you unfortunately can’t talk to her right now because another call unexpectedly intervened between your texting her and her texting you back. Since you issued the invitation to have a chat, it’s on you to make it happen, but you don’t have to make it happen immediately as long as you promptly acknowledge her response and apologize for the unforeseen delay.
Thanks Kimstu, I like this approach.
I’m probably the last person to ask since I’m terrible about keeping in touch with people. I’ve noticed my friends and I tend not to call or text unless we have something specific to do. Like I won’t talk to them for months and then out of nowhere I’ll get a text “you want to go to a Rangers game?”.
I wish I had 'Friends"…
Well, … You’ve got us. But we never call you.
Well, not all of you. 