Crying is a sign of strength I see a man cry and I know he has feelings and emotions like a woman.
Men should cry it is getting rid of the stress.
I believe emotions and feelings are good in both male and female. 0887
Lizard, comments like that will make me cry. 
But seriously, I’ve listed all the times I’ve been hurt beyond simple bruises, so I don’t think it’s so bad.
I suspect the emotional shock and horror of having a finger cut off could be as big a cause of tears as the pain was.
Physical shock also can make you weak and upset.
Doesn’t bother me if men cry.
Oh, I guess it depends on the severity of the wound.
If I cut an arm off I may cry,a finger would grow back (right?)…
Fractured my leg and ankle on New Years day 2002 and I didn’t cry. I think I may have had sufficient emotional release by swearing very loudly, though.
Christmas day 2002. Afternoon escape down to the local pub. My local is a kinda rough place, and it was full of the usual hard blokes having a quiet Christmas day pint. ET comes on the telly, the conversations dwindle and most people are watching the movie. I lost it at the “I’ll be right here” bit. Not sobbing, but that strange, and rather wonderful, overwhelming feeling where the tears just stream down the face. I was far from the only one. Afterwards there was much good-natured banter, and the bar-maids still pull everyones leg about it. But I walked home later that night feeling better than I had for weeks.
It’s strange, when I get hurt my immediate reaction is not to cry, but to get angry - but mostly at myself. I think the last time I remember really crying was 1996, although I do get teary eyed on the rare occasion.
Oh, the guys making fun of your husband were asses.
I should state from the outset that I think crying when you get your finger cut off is entirely appropriate, and most of my post doesn’t apply to your husband’s situation.
And of course, I wasn’t there, but it could be that your husband’s colleagues were just teasing him in an affectionate way, knowing that they would probably do the same as him.
Have you got any statistics to back that up? I haven’t either, and my take on it is that men who do cry excessively are the ones more likely to be abusive - the ‘criers’ are the ones that can’t control their emotions. The examples that stick in my mind are men like Mike Tyson, or Alex Higgins.
Please note that I am not saying that all men who cry are abusive, rather that in my opinion abusive men are likely to cry easily.
Crying easily and “having emotions” are not equivalent. I think that having emotions is a given, and it is not necessary to bawl your eyes out in order to express them.
Personally I have not really cried as an adult. I’m not boasting, it’s just that nothing seriously bad has happened to me in that time. I might well cry if I lost a finger, or broke a limb. I definitely would if someone close died. But just because I don’t cry all the time doesn’t mean that I don’t have emotions, or even that I don’t show them.
I certainly don’t believe that crying is a sign of strength - it clearly isn’t. But a man who cries could well be strong in other ways (physically, for instance), and in my view there’s nothing wrong with being weak anyway.
I’m a thai boxing, knife fightin’, 30 scars from elbow to fingertips on both arms with a history of clumsiness kind of guy…not a tear. But, then again, I didn’t have my friggin finger chopped off! OUCH!
However, I have to bite my lip to keep from crying in the movie theater…I just well up and over during sad scenes. Really strange. Even arguments with past SO’s have almost made me cry (walked away to calm down). Heck, I had a breakdown before my daughter was born cuz I didn’t know how good of a dad I’d be (insecure moment of panic- she’s almost here!!! What do I do!!!)…
I, Tomcat, am a cryin guy. I can also kick you in the head if you make fun of me because of it. 
Crying is emotional housekeeping. Just the same as laughing at something funny or maybe yelling or cursing when you’re angry.
The reaction to pain is different for everyone, but I agree with Gorgon Heap that I haven’t cried when I’ve hurt myself, but rather when I’m undergoing an emotional moment.
Maybe that’s a guy-thing too.
But anyone who thinks less of a man for crying doesn’t have opinions that matter much, I think.
If I cut my finger off, I wouldn’t cry for the pain, but I would cry for having lost my finger.
I don’t know why anyone would make fun of it - what were the ‘nasty things’ they said? Sometimes guys do male-bonding through insults and stuff, although that’s hard to imagine here.
You Tomcat are a real man. 0887
No, a real man would be like the Black Knight in Monty Python and the Holy Grail 
cart’s idea was what I was thinking too: are you sure the guys at work weren’t just giving him a hard time in a good-natured, man-to-man teasing kind of way?
What isn’t okay (not that I’m suggesting these apply to dragongirl’s husband–just trying to answer the general question) is
(1) if crying gets in the way of Doing What A Man’s Gotta Do, or
(2) crying in an attempt to manipulate people or fish for sympathy. This is immature and unattractive behavior in a man or a woman, but for some reason society finds it far less acceptable if a man does it.
Gorgon Heap …lordy, I wasn’t come to ANY conclusion. I was just stated how you NEVER know what goes on behind closed doors.
cripes.
Uh-huh.
“It’s just a flesh wound!”
No really, I think you’ve more or less nailed it, Thudlow.
It is definately ok for a guy to cry. The only limit on that is when a guy cries at every single little thing…but then, it would annoy me coming from a girl, too. Basically, I think guys have the same right to cry as everyone else.
I was not there when the guys at work were bugging him, but according to my husband it wasn’t just kidding. They were being big assholes. However it wasn’t everyone, just a handful of guys.
I think the horror of seeing his hand without a finger is what set it off. He doesn’t cry often and it wasn’t big time sobbing, just tearing up and a shaking voice.
I have cried due to intense anger and frustration.
I will cry at certain movies, no matter how many times I see them (in fact, the more often I see them, the more they make me cry) - some of them are sad, some just… poignant.
I do recall having cried once, as an adult, due to pain.
And I have cried as a result of death.
Yes, it’s alright to cry.
you big sissy
kidding
of course it’s alright to cry. I’m surprised by their reactions. There is a cultural taboo regarding when it’s ok for men to cry, but extreme physical pain is usually considered ok. For god’s sake, Brett Farve was obviously crying when he left the game with an injury earlier this year.