A few weeks ago, my husband cut his finger off at work. He was in shock at first, then pain. When the pain hit, his eyes started getting teary and his voice shakey. They took him to the hospital, now he’s fine.
About two weeks later he had to stop by the job to get something out of the truck. While he was there, a few guys started saying nasty things to him for crying.
I would think it’s normal for someone to cry if they’re in extreme pain. I guess the guys at work don’t.
Nothing! That is so sad that other (insecure) men would make fun of him…I mean he lost a finger!!!
That is so sad. Please let your husband know that those insecure men are just that…insecure.
Okay…so some of the “old school” people THINK it’s a sign of weakness. I think a sign of weakness is not fessing up to what you’re feeling and dealing with your emotions.
Yep, it’s SO MUCH BETTER to hold in your emotions, right?!?!? Aresholes.
‘Cause he’s bein’ a widdle cry-baby!!!
Hey, you asked.
I’m a sap, if you ask me, and I cry during great songs and during great movies.
I don’t cry if I cut my finger. Hell, I broke my hand (actual hand, not fingers - carpals) at work some years ago and all I did was tell the woman in charge, “Hey, I think I broke my hand.”
Likewise a couple yerars before that, in high school, I did break a finger (actually someone else did) and not only did I not cry about it, I went out and played vollyball that night.
Busted up tendons in my knee - no crying.
Needle jabbed into my spine for an intrusive test pre-surgery - screaming, but no crying.
Banged my head on a piece of metal, bleeding everywhere - laughing, no crying.
Glass shattered in my hand while doing dishes, blood gushing - asked a guy if he could grab me a towel or something.
My dog died - I cried like a baby.
Far as I’m concerned, guys cry from emotions, not little knicks and bumps.
Gee I hope it’s ok for men to cry.
Actually I don’t need no stinkin’ permission from society to cry! If I want to cry I’ll cry! I’m not afraid of some idiots judgement on my manliness. Who is the real man. The one that does what he wants, that is in his nature, or the man who denies his nature because other might make sport of him?
My dad’s a big cryer, but my husband doesn’t cry. He almost cried when he squished the kitten’s foot in the closet door, but other than that, he’s macho guy. It gets tiresome.
Crying is necessary.
I read that after a person cries, certain hormones are released, thus making you feel a bit better.
weeping is emotional housekeeping.
I think the men at his workplace are more than a little insecure about their manlyhood. That’s ok. Chances are… you come home to a man who cries… while their wives come home to a completely disfunctional, perhaps wife beating, cheating alcoholic.
I hear ya. I too am the progeny of a big crying dad–happy occasions (everyone made it home for Thanksgiving), sad occasion (Grandma died), you name it, he was blubbering.
The man I’m dating now, however, despite his affinity for Air Supply and ownership of a Care Bear, does not cry. EVAH. Hell, he thinks my 18-month old nephew is a wuss because he (the nephew) has not yet learned that boys don’t cry.
I admit I don’t know any men who would give another guy crap for crying when he cut his frickin’ FINGER OFF. Where does your husband work, Macho-Stereotypes-R-Us?
I don’t cry when I get hurt…I dunno why, it’s not like I am really tough girl, I cry all the time (well not all the time) about other things…when we have to put down puppies, or kittens, that makes me cry. Movies can make me cry. Poetry too…
But I have never cried from pain, and I didn’t know that other people did for the longest time.
I was just sharing. I am sure I would have a strong reaction if my finger got cut off, but it would probably be screaming, not crying.
I agree with the others who said anyone who’d get on someone’s case for tearing up after he cut his finger off is an asshole.
Having said that, I think I would definitely be uncomfortable around men who cried as much as some of the men mentioned in this thread. I mean, blubbering at family get-togethers? I still wouldn’t criticize them for it, though.
I guess I DO feel there are only few times when it is perfectly okay for a “real man” to “blubber” (as opposed to simply tearing up). And that would be at the death of a family member (including beloved pets) or after witnessing a grisly disaster. I’ve seen very tough guys cry after both occasions, and nobody in their right mind would’ve held it against them.
I’d definatley cry(in private) if my widdle doggy died,but not if I cut my finger off.
When I was 12 I smashed my index finger off(re-attached) ,the middle finger was crushed also, all the other fingers were broken.
I did cry a litte at first,(hey, I was 12) but I calmed down and enjoyed the medi-flight.
A good friend got seriously injured on the job a coupla years ago,this happened before I got there.
He fell two stories to the concrete floor, I told the fella’s that I’m glad I wasn’t there because I prolly would have cried(he’s a good kid with a good heart)
I’d prolly cry(a little) if I saw a friend get seriously injured, but not if I got hurt, thats just wimpy…
