Is it possible to be a (fill in the blank) magnet?

In My Humble Opinion
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I’m going to start with a mild rant, hopefully not Pit-worthy.

Seems I’m constantly being falsely accused of something. I know, everybody has to deal with false accusations at some point in their life, but I seem to be eating more than my share. Starting with when I was a kid, being punished for assorted crimes that my stepfather knew full well my sister had committed.

In my adult life,…

In a past job, I was suspended after a coworker falsely accused me of physically assaulting her in an attempt to get me fired (failed, after several coworkers who had not witnessed the non incident went to the boss and told him that it hadn’t happened).

At my current job, we have a floorman who has gone to my pit boss claiming (falsely) that customers have been complaining about my behavior. I actually caught him at it once, and told my shift boss about it, so he has promised that he’ll look into any further accusations that might be made against me.

Oh, then there was the day my back went out on me in the middle of the shift. By the time the boss went home, I was pretty well crawling around the table trying to pay bets. Next Sunday (my Monday, casino calender, don’t ask) the boss calls me over to the podium and informs me that the previous Thursday, the last two hours of the shift I was incoherent (not true- physically, I was having problems, but mentally I was very much on top of the game) due to the fact that I was mixing painkillers and alcohol(!?!?!?!).

OK, end rant, I don’t want to turn this into a Pit thread.

I just wonder. I seem to be a magnet for false accusations. I’ve heard that a lot of women are magnets for abusive men- an abusive male can spot a potential “doormat” from across a crowded room. Other people seem to attract alcoholics or other assorted drug addicts, again, they can spot them from across the proverbial crowded room. Other people seem to draw bullies.

Are there certai people who just somehow unconsciously put out the signal, “You can horribly mistreat me and get away with it”?

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I’ve already reported the OP’s post to a moderator.

Just kidding.

I seem to attract more than my share of religous types, but that’s probably because I’m just too polite to tell 'em to get lost.

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Thea, I don’t think my legs are long enough tonight to write an essay, but the answer is yes. And, while said people can appear to fit in the crowd just fine, you have to remember that there are certain other people who progress toward their goals at least partially by body count. And they are probing; probing for weaknesses, a certain response set, a foothold.

I do OK in the corporado life, where you can find these ghouls. And I have a neurological condition that causes tremors. These tremors were (I’ve recently begun a chemotherapy that controls them quite well) most commonly interpreted as nervousness, and that was exactly the sort of thing the sort I’m talking about would latch on to. It caused me problems for years, because at a superficial appraisal I appeared an easy kill.

It never really hampered me because the rest of my response set didn’t fit the model. But I definitely drew a few of those who thought they’d detected weakness, or some sort of inability to fight back. They’ve all been wrong. :smiley:

Hope it helps, Thea.

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Ringo, I can see the logic of what your saying, that a person’s body language can be the equivilant of having “victim” tatooed on their forehead.

I just wonder, how can there be something in a randomly selected person’s demeanor that says “You can make an accusation against me and have a reasonably good chance of making it stick”

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Oh man. Me too.

I think they have a newsletter with my name/address on it. It must also contain my photo because they find me on the street as well.

The thing is, I don’t look like a person who needs to be saved. I look like a regular guy.

After 9/11, I just tell them I’m muslem. That shuts them up pretty damn quick. In fact, I think I’ve scared a few by saying that. Like they think I’m going to car bomb their house or something. heh heh.

Short of all that, I’m a freak magnet as well. You know those crazy people that talk to themselves about having the CIA hiding in the crawl space of their house. Those people ALWAYS find me.

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Im so glad to hear that i am not alone. I think that i must give off a scent or a type of glow that attracts crazy people … I mean they must be able to sniff me out or see a big sign over my head that says “idiot…please discuss your paranoia here”. :confused:

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Thea, without knowing a lot about your life, I don’t think you’re randomly selected. You’re giving them access.

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Lachrymotormouths, that’s what! I seem to attract people who can’t stop talking about their troubles. Nonstop weepers. I don’t even give 'em that much sympathy. Big shoulders, that’s my problem.

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My wife is an A-hole magnet; I am proof of that.

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I frequently get people who I do not know at all come up to me and ask me questions about their computer. . . .

About it though.

Damnest thing is when I am in the library and people I do not know at all come up and ask me about programming in <insert computer language here>!

I mean come on, FIXING computers I can understand, but I have been asked for help on some pretty darn esoteric languages, LOL.

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I cant stand it when im in a store shopping and people stop me and ask me where something is and i tell them i dont know, They get all pissy and say well you work here dont you and my responce is no i dont, would an employee be wearing sandles and a tank top pushing a shopping cart and thumbing through bananas… :wally … Weird people must think im there friend or something …:confused: :confused:

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I can’t make a truly accurate analogy to your scenario since I don’t really know you from Eve, but I know a woman like this (nut and asshole attractor) and her main problem, quite frankly, is that besides the fact that she is quite attractive, intelligent and sweet natured, she is willing to listen to all types of people and take them seriously and is non-confrontational. She is very logical and practical and tries to “understand” what someone’s problem is, and she will never, ever get in someone’s face and tell them to step off. Some people take that as a sign of passivity and a potential victim. Jerks and bullies (even adult ones) look for victims that will not fight back or people with a weakness they can exploit.

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Old men.
I don’t mind, they buy the beer!
:smiley: