I’m not sure why certain people judge others so quickly without getting both sides of the story. They’ll either go with their gut feeling or believe someone else. This usually happens when you meet someone for the first time & you want to know what they’re like without asking them, so you ask other people.
Question: Have you ever been falsely accused of something that you never did?
Examples: inappropriate behavior at a bar, club, or college party, something that you never said, something that you never stole, etc.
Well I’ll listen to any information I hear about someone, take it in an absorb it because it could be useful in a later scenario. It doesn’t mean I believe all the rumors I hear about people and I generally treat individuals the way they treat me.
I hate to admit it but I do enjoy gossip, I don’t know why I’m that way, I just always have been. That said I always assume that people could be lying and don’t ever take it on faith what people tell me. I like to make my own observations and feel people out.
The OP is a little cryptic did something happen to you recently involving this topic?
There have definitely been situations in my life where I feel my reputation precedes me and someone seemed determined not to like me before we even met.
I’ve been falsely accused of acting like a “player” at parties just because I talk to other people, especially girls. I never hooked up with a girl because I’m not interested in that lifestyle, yet I had no intentions with them. However, asking for her Snapchat is fine by me.
Do you see the problem here? If other people heard about what happened, who’re they going to believe: Me & the girls?
Yes, and that’s one of my sorest points. I don’t care what you say about me, as long as it’s the truth. I go ballistic when someone lies about me.
Someone started a rumor at the store that a customer left a full cart of paid for items at my register and I didn’t notice it. That is not possible, and I went nuts when hearing it.
And they are often just jealous of status. For instance, the new person tends to get more attention, so the rumor monger makes themselves more important by digging up or making up some dirt about them.
Slight hijack follows:
I was on a jury pool years ago and the quoted question was asked by the defense attorney during voir dire. My answer was “Yes, sir, I’m married”. After some polite laughter in the courtroom subsided he said “I see. Have you ever falsely accused someone else?” I replied “Yes, sir, I have kids”.
I wasn’t selected for that jury…
As to the OP, I am not easily swayed by rumors. I have seen far too many proven wrong, even when stated under the guise of ‘fact’. I think part of the draw, however, is being one of the “in” group who knows things others don’t.
You seem young, maybe under 20 years old? When I was that age, ‘player’ was a compliment or used jealously.
I took a mostly forgetable industrial psychology class years ago. In fact, my only clear memory is being told that workplace rumors are true ‘about 80% of the time.’
…I think that it’s possible that you have a blind spot about how other people interpret what you feel are innocent actions on your part. You may not think that you are acting in a creepy manner, or acting like a “player,” but it seems very possible that you don’t realize that your actions are coming across that way.
I guess that my actions are being misinterpreted, in a way that makes them think that I’m up to something. However, some people don’t mind my company & are easy to talk to.