I’m a women. And honestly, I’m a bit scared of men. I probably wouldn’t want to live alone with one.
ETA: No offense to men. My neurosises are not your fault.
Shoot,
I’m not asexual, I’d love to find the right woman to share my life with. But in the mean time, I don’t want to live alone. It depresses the shit out of me. Which is why I always manage to find a room mate to live with. even tho’ I can easily afford a place of my own.
So I’d be willing to be your room mate for life. Well, maybe not for life, but at least until I find Mrs. Right. Then you’re out the door! Or I am, which ever works. 
Do you mean someone that will kinda commit to spending the rest of their life with you? Or more of a short-term, whilst it suits us both kind of thing?
Isn’t this kind of arrangement not-unheard-of in in Boston?
Not to get too off track here, but why are you afraid of men? Is there something specific that makes you uncomfortable? I don’t want to pry, but I find this intriguing.
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The asexuality and the fear together seem to point to a possible trauma in the OP’s background. An uncontrolled environment like the Dope may not be a healthy place to discuss it.
I know a couple who have done just that. They started out as friends in college, and became roomates soon after. The female is not a-sexual, and has men over occasionally. The man I suspect is asexual, but I MMOB about it, and have never asked.
The friend circle refers to them as roomates for life. They have bought a house together, and their lives are intertwined pretty closely. They are great companions.
I’m not sure from the OP exactly what you are looking for though. Were you hoping for physical cuddling etc. without sex? Or are you just looking for a financial/chore/chat partner? The couple I describe are the latter.
No, I wasn’t traumatized. I’m just weird. Maybe it’s that I grew up in a mostly single-sex enviroment, so I’m not comfortable around guys.
I was thinking more of the former, but I’m not sure how I would find somebody like that.
I wonder why you couldn’t have an emotional/loving connection with this person; such a connection doesn’t necessarily have to include intimacy or a sexual relationship. You say you don’t understand the point of romance, but I don’t know that there is a point to it- it just sort of happens. What’s the point of happiness? Or sadness? Have you ever felt any kind of emotional connection toward someone?
Sounds like you haven’t seen that many marriages up close.
I’m in this sort of situation right now. I offered my spare bedroom to a friend who needed a place to stay, and the arrangement’s been going on three years now. We’re as much of a married couple as it’s possible to be without any romantic or sexual connection. The only difference is neither of us are actually satisfied with the arrangement; we’ve both got SOs we’d rather live with, but due to various troubles, financial and otherwise, it’s not possible right now.
That’s kind of funny because Allan Shore and Denny Crane had something like that in Boston Legal.
Silly us, what about “The Odd Couple”?
Oh, I feel friendship, happiness, attachment, stuff like that (especially with cats, but with people, also). I just don’t experience lust/romance, as far as I can tell. With all my other psychological/neurological oddities, I figure I’m just missing some key hormones that everyone else has.