Getting annoyed about being called dude because you’re a woman is the most babyboomer style response in this thread.
How old are you?
Or is that rude to ask?
Yes, and what is a sexist auto-focus anyway?
They may be old but they’re still snarky. Me, I’m mentally 17.
But were your born in Nebraska or Kenya? And is that “birth certificate” the full one or the abridged one county clerks hand out to anyone with ten bucks?
Some people use the term “dude” genderlessly. I call my daughter dude. I call the asshole who cut me off dude. I call my husband dude. I use it as an exclamation of surprise when my coworker tells me we’re ahead of schedule on a project… and it doesn’t matter the gender of the coworker who tells me that.
I use it as a more casual version of “person.”
At least the “dude” thing is interesting to talk about.
The only people I know who think of “dude” as male are trans women, and I don’t blame them for being more sensitive to that sort of stuff. To everyone else, dude, guy, guys, etc. should all be understood to be gender neutral outside of specific contexts.
When someone, other than a medical professional, asks my age I ask them why they are asking.
I do not think it is rude, just weird. How does my age figure into our conversation? Why do they need to know?
I say 65 and they freak out because I look about 40*. Then they get weird about it and start pestering me for “my secret” to looking so youthful. I say I have a painting in the attic and they have no idea to what I am referring.
*not a painting in the attic
Adults understand that if you ask a rude question, you will likely get a few rude answers. I’m sure that will make more sense to you once you grow up a bit more.
Dude ‘word’.^^^
I look younger than I am. I have used the ‘Dorian Gray’ reference myself. Once in a blue moon someone gets it.
I consider being asked my age to be like being asked when I had my last BM.
A few people have a reasonable right to ask such a question. Other people asking such a question doesn’t seem right.
I’ve never had one, how are they?
The TL;DR version of this thread:
OP: “Is it rude to ask your age?”
SDMB: “Yes.”
OP: “Wow, how rude!”
Confucius say: A person who claims they never had a BM (bowel movement) is probably full of shit.
3rd one who looks - by all objective accounts - younger than my age. (So far approx. zero who get the “oil painting in my attic” explanation, which just adds an extra layer of confusion onto a awkward conversation.)
I realized I use “dude” as a slight chide or expression of mild contempt, in a similar vein to “bless your heart.” It’s the verbal equivalent of an eyeroll.
One of us is whooshed. I won’t rule out the fact possibility that it’s me, but I think it could be you.
This is why old people shouldn’t be allowed on the internet
Whether a given person considers it rude depends on the person, but I think most people should know it’s a question that may make the questionee uncomfortable.
So to be considerate it’s better to avoid the question unless it’s essential or you know the person well.
You mean the people who were on the Internet before you were born, dude?
That’s it? That’s your whole point? You signed up and started a thread to let us know that you consider most of us old and out of touch? Weird.
Hey, you’re so old that you know what a BeeGee is!