Let me start out by saying I am an extremely shy person when it comes to girls. In my 18 years of life, I have had 2 girlfriends and when i finally got the nerve to ask those girls out it was like pulling teeth for me. I am by no means an unatractive guy. [ego]I am told all the time by female frinds and by co-workers that i am very good looking.[/ego] Neither is intelligence nor a sense of humor(I belive that those to go hand-in-hand). I have a good job and 2 nice cars. But it always seems like the really cool girls that supposedly like me will never say anything to me about it. Is it just that they believe that only the guy should ask the girl out or what?
It’s not wrong. At least I hope not, seeing as I did the asking when it came to my grade 12 graduation.
It’s certainly not wrong. People should be able to initiate conversation etc. regardless of gender, race, socio-economic status and TV show preferences.
But what you have yet to learn young padawan is that women like confidence. They find it attractive (refer my Bastard Theory sometime).
And they can often be just as nervous. They’re human too after all. Insecurities and all.
Yes it’s wrong. Women shouldn’t leave the house. And don’t leave your daughters alone with a man. And as soon as they hit puberty, marry them off. By the time they’re fourteen, they should be pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen!
Wait, wrong century. No, it’s not wrong. And I’m in the same boat as you, Home. Almost exactly. Maybe I’m schizophrenic and don’t know it…
Well, unless you are part of a singles group or something, there is your problem. Never “ask a girl out”. Try coffee, or lunch or something NON-date, get the #, call, chat, get her to talk about HER*, then another meet, more chat, then say “hey, maybe we could do dinner at …, you know, a real ‘date’ date”, and if you don’t know the answer will be YES, then you’re a total naif. Before that, maybe bring her a single rose, NO BIG florist thing, but like something you got from your Moms rosebush.
- if she talks mostly about her ex- forget it. I DO hope you know if she talks about her NON-ex, then it’s a "no-go, right?
No its not wrong… but its tough to get over the years of guys doing the asking and then I bet a bunch of girls (like me) get totally tongue tied around cute guys.
I can barely even meet a cute guys eyes… and then I do make friends with some cool cute guys and can hang around with them and stuff… I’m just weird I guess sighs… is also really shy too btw
When I was in high school, I couldnt even spaeak to a guy I liked, much less ask him out.
I guess it depends on the person.
If the guy is shy, of course the woman should ask him out, why not?
I have done so a few times, and they said yes.
And, Home, if you listed some personal stats in your profile, plus like where you lived, well- it is not impossible some of these REAL SHY ladies* here MIGHT ask you out, or at least send you a flirting email. Gawd, I’ve been flirted with more here than at an SCA event, and THAT is a lot. 
OK, ladies, who’s 1st? Subtle, aren’t I?
*who tend to be pretty bright, too, not to mention good looking.
Flattery will get you everywhere, Daniel. Yes, Home, that is a hint for you. 
And, FTR, if I was single, and lived near you, I would ask you out. Ahem If I could get up the nerve to, that is.
btw… intelligence and a good sense of humour do NOT always go hand in hand.
Look at Jim Carey
I feel it’s perfectly fine for a girl to ask a guy out. I wish they would more often. I’m 17 and still have yet to have a girlfriend. Not that I haven’t tried, trust me, I have. I just don’t care that much because my life doesn’t revolve around getting a girlfriend, although it would be nice to have one.
How many girls out there have asked a guy out?
I asked this guy Kevin to our junior prom. It was the second time I’d asked out a guy. I myself at the time had never been asked out, so it was a big deal to me. He said yes, and we had a great time at the prom. We had such a good time that we ditched the prom early and went out on the town. We became bf/gf that night. It was great. I’ll never again hesistate to ask out a guy I like.
What’s wrong with Jim Carrey?
Are you saying he is smart and not funny?
Or funny and not smart?
What proof do you have he’s not funny or smart?
I think it’s great. You haven’t lived until a cute chick asks you out on a date.
When I was in my teens and early 20s, I was in the ‘every girl’s friend, but nobody’s boyfriend’ category.
There are some guys that will be actively chased by girls. When my wife’s cousin was in his early teens, his phone was already ringing off the hook with girls calling him up.
They’re the exception. The rest of us have to go out and do the asking. It may not be fair, but unfortunately, fair has nothing to do with it. The world may be changing, but it isn’t going to change fast enough to make much of a difference for you, and you’ve got to work with the world as it is, not how it ought to be.
What held me back was some of the usual stuff. I wasn’t the sort who took the initiative in any area of his life, really; I pretty much went with the flow. So taking the initiative with girls, where the stakes were higher (as I perceived it), was even more scary. So I didn’t. And having no experience with girls, I was afraid to make the first move, and show what a klutz I was.
Looking back, my main thought is: I eventually had to take the initiative and ask a girl out; make the first move, and demonstrate that I had no idea what I was doing when I kissed her. One might as well get past that step sooner rather than later. Taking the initiative with women gets easier with practice, and, yes, women like confidence. But even if you aren’t confident, it’s better to get yourself out there and fall on your face a bit, than to sit on the sidelines. If you take some chances and look like a dope, you probably won’t get anywhere at first, but eventually you will. If you don’t take any chances, you definitely won’t get anywhere.
It’s a real pain in the neck, I know. It’s just a phase most of us guys have to bull our way through at some point. But in the end, it’s worth it. That’s what you have to remind yourself.
Homeslice
There is nothing wrong with her asking you out.But how do you know “she”, the right one,will.
It does put you into a completely different and I personally think more difficult situation .How do you say no to the ones you don’t want to be with. Kind of sheds a different light on the subject doesn’t it.
I didn’t notice your post count -not that it matters really -just a way of figguring how long you’ve been around here. Read some of the posts from the guys to the women they are trying to hit on. Don’t use that approach;).You are a lot cooler than that.
Really just relax find someone you are interested in ,maybe chat with some of her friends ,to find out if she is dating someone seriously and go ahead and ask her.It is really the easiest way.
HomeSlice, some disjoined thoughts for you:
It is very normal for a teenager to be shy / insecure. Some more than others. Girls are just as insecure for the same reason: they are afraid of rejection.
To a certain point that insecurity is normal and good and healthy. It shows you care and respect about what other people may feel.
When I was younger I was also pretty shy. Then there were the jocks who had zero shyness and I never envied them one bit. They just had no respect for women or even other people. I would much rather be shy than be like them.
Try to relax. And remember, the worst that can happen is that they say “no” but sometimes they say “yes” 
Ladies, by all means, YES! Please ask me out!
Hell, if any girl asked me out, i would definately take her out and buy her dinner.
All my life I have been asked out by women & it’s perfectly fine with me.