Okay, this is indeed a terfy talking point. I’m happy to hear that your friends aren’t rejecting you for it. People on social media tend to be a good deal less reasonable in my experience.
So do I. But to the woke what you do is not nearly so important as what you believe. One is not saved by works but by faith (in today’s approved tenets). As an unbeliever, my experience of woke is that it is 90% being an asshole.
I made a partial list of woke-by-this-definition policies from the Biden administration in an earlier reply to @Mijin here:
These are the sort of things the Dems need to stop doing to avoid being seen as woke, though there are potentially more influential examples at local/state level which afaik Biden and the national party would not have been able to do anything about? I don’t know how much Americans lump together the different levels of the same party.