I thought for guys it has always been “Silver Fox”? 
If only women knew the things men say about them when they aren’t around…
Speaking as a 20-year-old man, I don’t use the term much; it sounds cliched to me, since it’s used as a self-descriptor for a lot of rather bland pornography. I don’t think I would say it to the subject’s face–or, for that matter, to a woman, particularly a straight one over 25–unless I knew I had that kind of rapport with them. That said, I consider it a compliment, if a bit of an objectifying one.
That is, I consider it on par with “B.B. McGee” (short for Big Boobs), a nickname that an acquaintance of mine once earned among her male friends. I refrained from saying it, but I sure as hell thought something like it when I first met her. And I couldn’t help but chuckle when her friend/my floormate told me about the nickname. Or, what Der Trihs said.
Acronym, no, but I’d consider “stud” and “twink” sexual in nature and objectifying/demeaning. If someone called me one of those things, I’d consider my intelligence insulted a little and I’d hesitate to date that person. But I secretly hope a bunch of people are calling me those names behind my back.
This is as good a place as any to note that my favorite is Stewie Griffin’s “She’s got a balcony you can do Shakespeare from!” I can think of two women I’ve whispered that about since I first saw that episode. Favorite response: a gay coworker shot back “I’d rather just do Shakespeare”.
Where did MILF originate from anyway? I have only run across it in the last few years while surfing porn.
Er, I meant I was told about it by people who say they have looked at porn online. I, of course, have never done that.
Klaatu, I’d credit it to American Pie. First place I heard it, anyway. Then again, I was 12 when it came out.
here is a reference to MILF 4 years before American Pie came out.
Who in their right mind would say this to any woman? The only time I’ve heard it said was in a group of guys with no women around. Then it’s usually only said when we know that woman has children, usually she’ll have her children with her, otherwise how do you know?
**Larry Borgia ** you made me cackle out loud with your post, thanks.
It’s a compliment, albeit a crude one. Were someone to call me it, (aside from the fact, I have no children), I don’t think I’d be insanely flattered, or offended. Kind of “meh”
It is a crude compliment. I would be unlikely to use it, except in a teasing manner with someone I knew well. I say teasing, because I am rarely crude with women. There are better ways to let a woman know that she is sexually attractive.
Still, in an informal situation, I don’t suppose it is too bad. On message boards things are often more loose.
Well, seeing as how this question can HAVE an answer, it is indeed a crude compliment.
It’s nothing I’d actually say to a person in the real world, but something that I did say in the jocular spirit of the thread in question. I certainly wouldn’t have brought it up if you had remarked that your grandfather had just died or that your dog had died in a tragic blimp accident.
I can almost hear that conversation now. And see the dog/blimp visuals. Again I’m cackling at this thread.
I remember in the first season (or was it second?) of The Apprentice, one of the female contestants, who was kind of horsey-looking in my opinion, was called a MILF by some musician when they were doing a task that I think involved promoting some charity fundraising thing on QVC…win a day with a rapper or something. Anyhow, she was so giddy about the designation that she kept bragging about it, though she did change the F to something less crude that didn’t even start with F…I think it was “date”, and I was wondering if the guys had told her what the F really stood for! It seemed rather pathetic at the time, because it seemed like the musicians were really making fun of her trying to be all hip-hop and cool, and she just got so giggly.
I never saw American Pie, but it always seemed to me to be a term high school boys would use about their friends’ moms, not something actual men would use. And since one of my son’s friends (18 at the time) did start having an affair with, and moved in with, the mother of one of their other friends, apparently it’s an attainable fantasy.
To me, it would be a compliment. All the way. Sure, it can be perceived as crude but bottom line is, it’s just a way of saying “she looks great for her age and the fact that she has x number of kids/grand-kids.”
It’s a compliment. I’m not *that *old and I don’t have kids but I sure as hell would be flattered if someone described me as a MILF if I did.
I guess the world has changed in the last 30 years. I was the houseboy in a Berkeley sorority back in the 70s, and there were plenty of code words for particular types (and shapes) of men in use.
Terminology is a social instrument. Everyone knows kids whose use of the vernacular includes “fuckin this” and “fuckin that” but who magically sing the Queen’s english when they sit for a job interview. Similarly, most men learn to be cautious about their choice of words around women they want to get close to, mindful of the reactions to some words from some women. At least until they get the go-ahead to reveal themselves.
Telling a woman that you think she’s a MILF is a calculated risk. In some circles you’re expected to pretend that your sexual attractions are private. In others, they’re part of the currency of human interaction and are accepted as such. But you have to know which circle you’re in.
I always thought it was something you said about someone’s mom, not to someone’s mom, and having anything about your mother’s sexuality said is, at the least, antagonistic.
How I would react to being called a MILF depends on who is saying it.
For me, having my daughter’s friends (ranging in age from 13 - 19) call me a MILf is pretty creepy. Especially when they sing “Sterling’s mom has got it going on” Gives me the ickies!
When one of the hotties (the guys range in age from about 20 - 40ish, this guy is mid-20’s I think) that drill with my hubby at the armory called me a MILF, however…uhmm…let’s just say I don’t blush often, but I sure did then!
Can’t say as how I would consider someone finding me attractive (even in a crude way, as is implied with the term MILF) an insult…
My daughter’s 17, and to the best of my knowledge, her friends unanimously think I am “pretty cool… for an old person.”
I have a brother who is ten years younger than I am, and there was a period of time when a couple of his friends made “your sister’s hot” type comments. He told me just recently that he’d gotten into fights with two of his friends back then, when they expressed this opinion too crudely for his taste.
Another vote for crude compliment.
If you call someone a MILF, you are literally saying you’d Like to Fuck them, which is, outside of certain limited contexts, quite rude and/or creepy.
“Dude, your great-grandmother is a total GGILF!”
‘Older’ implies ‘aged’ and both usually are used for retirement-aged people and ‘Cougar’ isn’t an insult.