You must not have Facebook.
Dent his bumper to make the note more legit.
Saw it in a romantic comedy once.
No, she said she was going to ask to talk to him after work, and then corner him in the carpark. That sounds bad too – I wouldn’t want to wonder all day what someone wanted to talk to me about. Just ask at the time!
I wouldn’t dream of making a comment on a woman’s appearance without being interested in her. Being married, that limits the number of women I can comment on to exactly one, and the number I can comment on truthfully is less than that.
Oh hell no! I learned that one the hard way. Made a comment to a cow-orker about her hair looking nice that day. Turns out she got up late & only blew it dry. Didn’t put in any product, didn’t use the curling iron, didn’t say any incantations over it. While I really did like it better, the translation was that I didn’t like it when she put all of the effort it. :smack:
Adam Carolla from Loveline used to have two ways to tell if someone was interested. First is to tell him you are looking forward to a movie coming out. If he likes you he can then say, “Me too, we should go together” and if he does not he won’t react. The other way is to tell him you had a dream he was in. If he is into you he will be really interested and ask you about it. If not he will just say something perfunctory.
From his response to your question about going out he does not seem interested in you to me.
Perhaps the advice in this thread will serve of some use.
It may be a little outdated, since it is from February, though.
Small world, huh?
FFS! Why do people do this? (The OP, not Calatin)
Thanks everyone for your answers.However I am now more confused because some of are saying he is intrested and some of are saying he is not.I guess the chances of me getting rejected are 50/50.
I really want to make a move so that way I know where I stand .The only thing I am worried about theawkwardness if he declines my coffie invatation.
Now you know how guys of my generation felt.
If he is a nice guy, he’ll say that that date doesn’t work as a way of turning you down. If it really doesn’t work and he’s interested he’ll suggest another time.
If he’s not he won’t.
The worst that can happen is that you can stop worrying about it, and you’ll probably make his day no matter what.
Good luck!
Follow your heart.
Okee, my other answer wasn’t helpful at all. Anyways, you totally should talk to him more because he’s subtly flirting with you. Since you wore makeup for him I suggest that’s probably the only thing you should change, because you don’t want to be a different person to impress someone else (not saying you are now though). Keep talking to him and see if you could score a date.
Accepting rejection graciously is an important skill. Just smile, shrug your shoulders, say something like “ok, well let me know if you change your mind or want to do it another day.”
This way the ball is in his court and no hard feelings. It leaves the possibility open, but it’s up to him this time. At that point, you should never bring it up again* and start looking for somebody else you’d like to ask out.
*Because it’s the workplace, this is extremely important.
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Is that what the kids are calling it these days?
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As a happily married man, I do not get this. I complement ladies often. My wife & I are secure enough in our relationship to not get upset over this kind of thing. I am definitely not even slightly interested in “hooking up” with them.
I have been asked out by ladies. I grin & tell them “I am taken, thanks for the compliment though”. I do not feel uncomfortable around them after that.
As the brother of eight sisters, I often will compliment a lady if she is looking particularly good that day. Sometimes I can tell if one of my coworkers is feeling down. I often will compliment them on something, be it a task that they did well, or the way that they can communicate well with someone who is hard to deal with, or a pretty dress they are wearing that day. It can really brighten their day! Men, I compliment less often.
As for the OP, I recommend that you first find out if he is taken, or not. In nursing, as in machine shop work, rings are not advised for work attire, or so I have been told. So looking for a ring would not be much help. If this takes too long, ask him out for coffee. The worst he can say is “no way Barnes66’”. Most men will be much kinder. Since you do not see him often in your normal work day, you need not worry too much about being uncomfortable around him.
IHTH, 48.
I think that you have a real problem with workplace dating. I’d assume that 99% of all workplaces, barring military, and something even more bizarre, have no problem or rules against fraternization. Something along the lines of privacy, or some such.
As a professional male, I would come across as a creepy, stalking weirdo if I continually complimented females at work.
This is just not done in the workplace here. Sure, an occasional “hey nice new hairdo” or something, but really, I’m not going to constantly compliment colleagues.
Creepy.
I am required by my employer to take a sexual harassment class every two years. In the 20 years or so that I’ve been doing this, not once has the instructor said it wasn’t okay to compliment your coworkers.
The only thing they say is to keep it generic like “Nice outfit” and don’t use obviously sexual comments like “Nice butt” or whatever.
Our mileage has obviously varied. Most of the places I’ve worked have been paranoid about harassment charges, and I’ve known a couple people who got dismissed for asking a co-worker out.
I think the procedure is:
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Don’t over-analyse
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Ask out co-worker (is the term cow-orker dead?) casually, but clearly, i.e. specific time and place.
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If rejected don’t, push it.
I’ve personally sinned against all three points many times, and probably will again. None of them are particularly easy. But I do strongly believe in the theory.