I see Martian Bigfoot is a little confused, he voted for all of the options.
I’d like to vote for none of the options, but I don’t see how I can do it, other than by, you know, not voting.
I think the poster who made the origw assertion was making an ethical judgment, not an aesthetic one.
My answer, and Little Nemo’s, stands.
Interestingly, a number of married men engage sex workers to get the intimacy that they no longer get in their relationship.
As with most things, it depends on how you approach them. If what you want is someone to lie there while you fuck them, it might as well be masturbation.
If what you’re after is a level of intimacy and eroticism that goes beyond just the physical act, which is usual particularly with the higher charging escorts, then it’s absolutely not.
A good sex worker is not just renting her body, she’s selling a fantasy. That’s what people who disparage them by comparing them to an inflatable doll don’t like to hear and fail to understand.
I wasn’t going to vote but I just like shotguns.
I’ll bet it knows how to twist a throttle!
Never seen any “possessed hand” movies, have you?
OP: No.
It has nothing to do with the presence or absence of emotional connection.
This.
I can’t even describe how disgusted I am at that “argument”.
Sex with some hookers has no advantage over masturbation … unless you chat with the girl and are writing on essay on “What some heroin addicts do for money.”
But if you’ve never experienced a hooker capable of giving enormous pleasure, then you’ve been frequenting the wrong sorts of hooker. 
You know what, I found out this problem very very recently. Tried a “reputable” place per a certain website where the rumor is, certain services are available. Found a hooker at that place who did her best. She was physically attractive, she tried tickling and playing and being fun, she let me cuddle with her (what I really wanted was the human contact I think), she spoke good english and would also giggle and say things in what was probably Chinese.
Yeah, didn’t work. What was missing? There was missing the thrill of conquest. When you’re out in a date with a “regular” girl, trying to get into her panties the first time, there’s this “will I even get some” and “am I reading her signals right or is this too aggressive?” and “oh please please I really want to touch <some nice body part> I hope I don’t blow this date.”
(or the second or the third time…every woman usually makes you work for it. You have to get them in the mood, it has to be the right time and place, etc. Well, sometimes. The darn problem with women is they are so fickle - the night before, when you wanted sex, she was too tired. The next day, she isn’t in the mood until suddenly she wants you to fuck her on while you’re in the car and it isn’t convenient…And then, after a couple days where you aren’t getting enough, she suddenly is asking for more sex than your body is capable of providing…feast or famine. And then when you go meet with other girls after getting some, girls who were uninterested before, they sorta smell her on you and then *they *want some…while a week earlier you couldn’t get laid for months)
And while she faked it and used lube, her vagina was lukewarm at best. It was physically tight but I could tell that she wasn’t really into it. The standard latex condoms are also way too deadening, there’s none of the heat or slickness of real vagina. I think the fake things she was doing - asking me to fuck her, the fake moans, were more of a turn off than a turn on. Women you’ve really conquered who are enjoying it often give very different, more involuntary gasps and so forth. At least, I *think *they are enjoying it…fake or real, women tend to like to keep you guessing. And even when they have a real orgasm, they can be mad at you emotionally and still mad after, or happy with you emotionally but not cum but still want to cuddle…uggh. Women y u so fickle.
Anyways, yes. After I gave up, I yanked off the condom and received a handjob which at least relieved the pressure. My emotional state after was only marginally better than when I went there, it wasn’t worth it. Some of you may respond to my honest outpouring here and call me a loser, but I don’t currently have the means to compete in the local marketplace for mates. Maybe things will change and maybe they will not, but I think I’m going to have to try something else. I could try to rebuild my body so I can compete, but as I mentioned in earlier threads, there’s a lot of extra body fat and it’s a daunting task. Also, even if I were buff, I’m still short, and the local mate market is viciously competitive.
I have tried hookers who do a better job at tricking you…or did they? It’s one of those things where the first few times the tricks work and then you recognize the patterns.
I’m not sure what to do. As I mentioned in another thread here, allegedly, Seeking Arrangement has got the good stuff. You can pay women to date you. You still have to try to win them, they’ve just agreed to give you a shot in return for cash. You can fail, you get a lot more time to try to connect with them, the fact that they perceive you as a wealthy and powerful person on a longer term arrangement actually turns some women on. The sex ends up being the real stuff without a condom, and it’s more real and less scripted and there’s not this constant feeling during in that she doesn’t trust you as you are just john #1343.
It’s also you get what you pay for. My little excursion last night was less than a couple hundred bucks. I think I’ll need 10k or more in available free cash before I even try SA. As I mentioned in another thread, I make good money, but those loan payments will eat a huge chunk of it. I can try to justify it morally, but the reality is, if I can figure out a way to defer making those loan payments and get another 10k a year in cash flow, that’s 3 months of paying a girl to see me 2-3 times a week. Am I a desperate loser? You could see it that way. Not everyone lives the life of the blessed. Gotta play the hands as dealt.
I wonder if sex with your wife with whom you no longer have an attraction counts, in lieu of hooker. Being with such a wife might definitely be not as good as masturbation.
And my only regret is that there weren’t more options.
My sex life has been… sparse. And even that paints an overly optimistic and livelier picture than it actually has been. But never have I considered going to a prostitute, because that seems no more fulfilling than remaining alone every night.
No. Just ignorant:
noun
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the stimulation or manipulation of one’s own genitals, especially to orgasm; sexual self-gratification.
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the stimulation, by manual or other means exclusive of coitus, of another’s genitals, especially to orgasm.
Or at least sit on their hand until they lose feeling in it (AKA “The Stranger”)!
I can’t get oral by myself.
When sexbots are perfected, will they drive hookers out of the market?
It seems to really rate sex workers - who are, after all, humans - pretty low. I mean, she may as well not be there at all, it’s just like masturbation!
I have not had, nor do I have a desire to have, sex with a prostitute, but I do sort of agree with the sentiment put forth in the OP. The idea being that sex with a romantic partner encompasses more than just the act of copulation itself but, hopefully includes some degree of fulfillment of emotional and spiritual desires as well. I suppose it’s possible, but it’s unlikely to really have a meaningful emotional or spiritual connection with a prostitute and, considering that you’re paying her, she’s not willing in even the same way a one-night stand you picked up at a sleazy bar would be. In that sense, it seems to make a prostitute tantamount to a sex toy that’s attached to a person who is a professional in using it. Yes, it’s a dehumanizing view, but dehumanization is pretty much par for the course for sex work, no?
And, really, we can carry this sort of analogy to other professions as well. For example, many people will have their friends help them move, maybe buy them some pizza and beer. In that regard, a professional mover is a rent-a-friend who happens to have professional skills in moving furniture. In fact, I used to joke about that when I worked as one. Similarly, a psychologist or other forms of talk therapists are also rent-a-friends, this is just one that is trained and highly skilled in listening. So, carrying that idea along, how is a prostitute not a rent-a-girlfriend?
Though, really, I think the concept is more about the idea that, without that actual genuine connection to the person… what’s the point? If it’s just for the sake of fulfilling a carnal need, sure, it’s probably a lot more pleasant than just rubbing one out, but if you’re seeking that extra part that only a romantic partner can give, it really isn’t any better.