I received this anonymously… any opinions on what it says ohh experts in the love field? It was a column in Ann Landers is all I know.
LOVE OR INFATUATION?
Infatuation is instant desire. It is one set of glands calling to another. Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows - one day at a time. Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream. Love is quiet understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his/her presence, even when s/he is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him/her nearer. But near or far, you know s/he is yours and you can wait. Infatuation says, “We must get married right away. I can’t risk losing him/her.” Love says, “Be patient. Don’t panic. Plan your future with
confidence.” Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you are honest, you
will admit it is difficult to be in one another’s company unless you are sure it will end in intimacy. Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers. Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. S/he feels that trust, and it makes him even more trustworthy. Infatuation might lead you to do things you’ll regret later, but love will never.
Tell me what you think?
“Only when he no longer knows what he is doing, does the painter do good
things.” --Edgar Degas