But most women don’t wake up and think “I’m having a great boob day!” You make like yours or hate them, but they are what they are. It’s not like you can work on them in the gym.
You can highlight them or downplay them, of course, but it’s a pretty simple process. Going on a date? Out comes the push-up bra and low cut top. Going to work? Cover them up. It’s simple mechanics, not somethings that engenders a lot of pride.
Think about it like height. It can be a big deal. Both men and women talk about it. But you probably don’t feel a lot of pride in your particular height.
10% - yay, I won the boob lottery, these look great
90% - what a righteous pain in the ass these are
Especially when I see a cute low-cut/backless dress or something that I cannot wear because I require extra support. Or when I can’t wear a button-up shirt. Or the fact that I have to wear an expensive, special-order sports bra on a daily basis. Or worrying about my genetically high risk of breast cancer. Really the vast majority of my relationship to my breasts is bitching about them.
My breasts are noticeably big on my frame and always have been, and sometimes they attract attention, usually from harrassing perverts who make me uncomfortable. Sometimes I put on clothes that make me feel attractive, but I promise you, I do not want you to comment on my breasts. For some reason well-endowed women are assumed to be intentionally provocative or wanting the attention, like you probably looked at your friend’s picture and assumed she wanted that kind of attention because her breasts are the first thing you noticed. What you need to understand is that for a woman like that, the breasts will always be the first thing you notice, no matter what she’s wearing. I wear a minimizing bra and my collars usually come up to my neck, and I’m certain that it’s still one of the first things men notice about my appearance, regardless of whether they find me attractive or not. Short of surgery there is absolutely nothing I can do about it.
I don’t mind when my friends tease me and that can be flattering, and obviously I want to feel like a ravishing goddess with my husband, but everyone else can kindly leave me alone. I’d much rather be complimented on something I have control over.
Missed the edit window. Ugh, do I sound humorless and crotchety? I don’t mean to sound that way. Everybody likes feeling sexy, but I feel like there’s a big difference between ‘‘you look sexy’’ and ‘‘nice tits.’’ I wouldn’t mind the former, the other is just way too forward.
… You, uh, DO realize that the “topics” are rather “obvious” in swimsuits because of the inherent design of swimsuits, yes? Unless you go for an (oversized!) burqini*, you don’t have much choice in the obviousness.
More practically, there ARE swim shirts. And interestingly, I have noticed/known more women buying them for precisely that reason – fitting boobs into swimsuits, having swimsuits feel comfortable * or the least bit supportive*, and dealing with shitty stares or comments are all mega pains in the ass.
** YOU try wearing straps or a halter around the neck pulling downward and see how comfy it is .
That depends. Take legs, for example: If a woman wears shorts or a miniskirt/minidress – in other words, if she has knowingly and deliberately made a decision to dress in such a way as to expose her legs to public view – then her legs are fair game, and she should not be offended by comments about them.
Same with cleavage. There is only one reason to wear a very low-cut shirt or dress. Anybody who pretends otherwise is a hypocrite.
Has it occurred to you that both men and women wear very short shorts when exercising, because such outfits are cool and don’t restrict leg motion?
No, I suppose it hasn’t.
I’m going to assume that your body isn’t attractive enough to encourage others to comment on it. Which means either you are a somewhat unattractive female, or an average male, since women are less inclined to comment, and gay men are afraid to. Trust me, if you have to choose between wearing what you want and avoiding unwanted comments, you often decide to just wear what you want and ignore the boors. But it doesn’t make the boors any more pleasant. And it doesn’t mean there is a polite way to comment on a woman’s rack if you aren’t engaged in sexual play with said rack.
