Hmm, I would not want to be an actor in her drama. On that basis, no way.
One model that I am thinking about: John Lennon and Yoko Ono. His life was scrutinized mercilessly, but he made it clear that He and Yoko came first. Any commentary he offered - in interviews, in songs he wrote, in how he behaved - made it clear that Yoko came first before his Beatle-ness.
If Kate Beckinsale had this blog but put me first within that context like John and Yoko, who am I to walk away?? 
The number of times I’ve met someone I connected with in a way that made me think we could have a long term relationship can be counted on one mangled hand. I would have given it a go.
I had similar thoughts, but it’s still problematic given how some fans would react.
Let’s say this hypothetical beau has agreed to the above, and I’m only referred to as GreenPantsProgrammer and my face isn’t shown. It only takes one “so GPP and I were eating at this Thai place for lunch today and…” and then some fan who took a picture of us eating realizes who she’s eating with (or just figures it out from overhearing us calling each other pet names) and one fan post to a blog the vlogger doesn’t control later, my face is splayed out for the world, and then it’s a short matter for someone I went to high school with or an ex coworker to recognize me, and by dinnertime by phone number, address, and first grade teacher’s name are known to all.
In short, no matter what guarantees this SO makes to me, the nature of fame means that my privacy will be gone as soon as we go out in public.
Even if it weren’t for that and my privacy was somehow kept, just the difference in perspective on issues we’ve had would drive me up the wall. No matter how unbiased this SO tries to be, any argument we have will end up with me being painted the bad guy, and the ‘facts’ that we all believe about ourselves will be at odds with ‘facts’ that others believe about me.
This actually DID happen to me at one point. My wife was venting online (where we are both anonymous but know each other’s usernames) and I was looking at her public posts to get ideas for a birthday gift (i.e. “has anyone else seen this thing? It’s so cute and I want one!”). She vented about something I had done and listed 3 or 4 ‘factual’ things I had done that annoyed her. Of course I was excoriated by other posters that read that description. The thing is, all of the ‘facts’ she had posted came from her perspective, and my perspective was that the real ‘facts’ instead put me in a much more positive light and made her look much more like a bad guy. I was livid at what she was saying about me. I eventually calmed down and decided to just let it go; but I don’t think I could do that on a daily basis. THAT would be the deal-breaker.
That might help with the general public but there are still going to be a lot of people who will know who you are. All of your friends, family members, and co-workers are going to know you’re dating this woman. Most of them are going to know she has a YouTube channel, which many of them will check out. And they’re going to know who she’s talking about when she discusses her boyfriend, even if she uses a code name.
So the good news is ninety-nine percent of her viewers won’t know who you are when she talks about that time you got drunk and dressed up in her lingerie. The bad news is the one percent who do know it was you will be the people you have to see every day of your life.
Deal breaker. Because I want to keep certain things about myself private it would ruin the relationship because I couldn’t trust the other person to maintain my privacy and I’d have to keep information from them. I guess if I was younger I might get used to it, but not at this point in my life.
These two. I don’t want to be recognised on the street and my real name is unique within the UK.
Sounds like I’d be getting the downsides of being famous without actually being rich myself, so I’d probably turn it down. Just looks to me like I get a ton of negatives that she puts up with because it makes her rich to do so that I have to put up with just to be in her presence, and there’s no guarantee that I can go back to my old life afterwards since so much will be out to the world.
I’ve had this with someone who wasn’t famous, and I’d rate it in the ‘entirely bad’ category. Hanging out having drinks with a bunch of people, then overhearing your GF telling other people that she’s upset that you don’t do a particular sex thing for her is not some amazing enlightening experience, it’s just awful. (She never discussed the matter with me, and since she turned me down the half dozen times I suggested it early on in the relationship I figured she wasn’t into it and didn’t bother her about it after that.)
It’s a sign of a highly dysfunctional relationship with a partner can discuss intimate matters with a table (or subscriber list) full of other people but won’t address the topic with you. It doesn’t make you feel good to suddenly find out that you’re being painted as a sex villain because your partner is telling tales, and figuring out if you’re better off explaining yourself or just letting it be a negative thing people say about you isn’t enjoyable either. Someone who is going to share what should be private issues with the world, and who would rather recite a one-sided account of the issue to everyone else than have a private discussion with her partner is just not someone I want to have anything to do with.
Everybody who knows you will know that you’re the one she’s talking about, because they’ll know that the two of you are dating, even if she calls you “Puddin’ Tane” in the vlog. I don’t really care if the ‘the public at large’ knows about me, but I do care if ‘everyone we hang out with’ does, and the fake name doesn’t help with that.
I’d have zero in interest in the sort of drama Ilama that would want to share her life in such a public fashion in the first place, I think all these bloggers and vloggers etc etc are a bunch of fucking morons so the chance of me being attracted to one is remarkably slim.
It would be very hard to get past that little factor to even begin worrying about whether she was talking about me, but unsurprisingly, I would have a huge problem with that.
I suppose this is as good a topic as any for my first post. 
Complete deal killer. While I can’t say my life is particularly interesting, there are some things I wouldn’t want to be public, especially from only the perspective of another. The only way this would have a prayer of working would be for me to keep major secrets regarding things I don’t want publicly disclosed.