I am not talking about that one night of wild sex - I am talking long(er) term relationship with a super-star celebrity.
Assuming you are you - just a “normal” person who is not famous, but meet a really famous celebrity who earns big bucks and is followed around by paparazzi day and night, and is on tour or off shooting a film/TV series weeks/months at a time, and you are - well, just the partner.
Would it bother you to be in their shadow day and night? Would it bother you to know you can’t go anywhere without looking perfect and knowing everyone is looking at you and the celebrity? Would it bother you to know they have all the money and fame and you are, well, just along for the ride and totally dependent on them for your new fabulous lifestyle?
I’d date him and maybe live with him. I’d probably never marry him. I don’t care about being in his shadow, but I might mind having people cast aspersions about our relationship all the time. But I could live with the money thing - it’s fun while it lasts, as long as you remember it’s going to go away.
I think maybe now, that I am older, I could deal with it. When I was younger, it would have made me crazy. These days, I am a lot more confident (or perhaps just lazy) about being able to do things like say “hey, I’m going on vacation without you for two weeks, because I need some down time from the paparazzi.”
I thought about this a while back because a celebrity was in one of my college classes, and we were in the same group for an ongoing project. It was an art history class, so we were going to different museums to gather information for our project. It was really disconcerting to notice people staring all the time, more than I would have expected. And it continued to feel weird – it got a little more comfortable as the class went on, but it wasn’t as if it was only weird the first week and then I could ignore it.
I couldn’t be with someone who needed that kind of attention. I’m not jealous or insecure, I just couldn’t provide the drama and attention such a person might need at home. I wasn’t interested in dating drama majors in college, either, just not my kind of person to spend time with. I love film, though, and respect those who are versitile and act well, but I’m not in the least attracted.
If I loved the person otherwise, sure. I don’t have any self-esteem problems, so the “living in somebody’s shadow” part isn’t an issue. I don’t see being rich as a problem - it’s really more of a plus. I don’t care for the fame, but as burdens go, it seems like an relatively easy one to bear.
I wouldn’t date, live with, or marry a celebrity. I have the usual fascination with what it would be like to actually be a major celebrity, but I wouldn’t want to have that as part of my life. Fame sounds like a terrible, unpleasant burden to me.
Depends on the behavior of the celebrity. There are huge stars you rarely see in the press except when they want to be in the press.
With such a celebrity, if I didn’t want to be involved in the press I’d just not go to those things where they’d be. Tip #1: Don’t live in New York or Los Angeles. There aren’t roving packs of paparazzi in Minneapolis or Portland or Wyoming.
But if it was a celebrity who liked the round-the-clock attention, it probably wouldn’t be a celebrity I want to be with anyway. The stray long-lens People Magazine shot of my at the gas station with my famous spouse I could live with. Standing in the background while she works a red carpet I could handle.
I would have different answers depending on the level of “celebrity”.
A famous person - sure - because not all famous people are paparazzi targets. I worked in the entertainment industry and knew a lot of name people. Mostly they were mainly normal.
But a * Celebrity * on the other hand - no - not my style.
