The exchange is obviously fine between friends.
I would keep sexual and racial banter, however well-intentioned, outside of the office, however. Not out of fear, but more out of a desire to keep the office a fairly neutral place.
SOME black people are relaxed about sexual banter. Not all. I’ll make dirty jokes in appropriate contexts, while my oldest brother is a terrible prude who once took me to task for saying the word fuck in my own home. My work wife is terribly flirty (outside of work), while my baby sister is very reserved. Et cetera.
Black people are not all of a piece, any more than white folks.
What’s a “work wife”?
I agree.
My best friend and closest co-worker. We spend so much time together on the job that we might seem to be married there, and she’s been charged by my actual wife to slap any candy bar out of my hands.
Once upon a time, I was in a “Gay Marriage” at work.
I was telling my then wife (Real wife) about my coworker I go to lunch with. The deal was, one day I would pick the place to eat and the next day he would pick the place to eat.
On a day it was my turn to pick, he asked me shortly before lunch:
Him: Where you want to go today?
Me: I don’t care, you go ahead and pick.
Him: McDonald’s?
Me: Nah
Him: KFC?
Me: Nah
Him: Long John Silvers?
Me: Nah
Him: I thought you said you didn’t care?
Me: I don’t, I just don’t want to go to those places.
Him: [Rollseyes and walks away]
Upon telling my wife this, she said: "OMG! You work wife is a dude!
We shared a good laugh over that.
That’s one of my favorite jokes, but I restrain myself from using it at work, lest I be seen as even weirder than they already think!
If the girl was offended, it was offensive. If not, it wasn’t. Mystery solved.
Women with large breasts are NEVER a problem.
Sorry, it’s just not true in the workplace. I have an expectation to not hear sexual or race-based comments at work even if I am not the person on the receiving end.
You’re boring
I had an almost identical situation recently. I was in line at the grocery store, and the guy ahead of me was taking forever. So I turned around, partly to hide my annoyance, and partly to share an eye-roll with whoever was behind me.
It was a rather pretty black woman.
Her purchase, on the belt, was three sacks of brown sugar.
With the lightning brain power for which I am famed, I realized that anything I said, anything at all, was going to get me into deep trouble.
I turned back around.
the more important question is did you get any chocolate?
You didn’t ask her how come she looked so good?
At work, yes.
OK, everywhere else too. :smack:
Before I read this part, I assumed you two had a comfortable enough relationship where this type of joke was fine. Given this is common behavior between you two, this is a no-brainer.
I’ve done both many times (telling the joke, as well as the subject), and it’s nothing to be offended by if everyone is on the same page. I’d definitely be more careful in a work environment (people being people), but if we’re out to lunch or something more casual, it’s fair game.
Yes I did, you think a good flirt like that would go unrewarded? 
Sorry, I have a right to expect that anybody who was offended at the OPs work site has a responsibility to be on that work site. In short, just because you don’t approve of it at your workplace, doesn’t mean that the OP did wrong. He could work at a place that is free to make this kind of humor with no objections.
Yeah, it’s making it stupider and annoyinger.
That’s what the money is for.