Gracias, my young padawan. Or should I be your padawan learner? Hmmm.
You’re welcome. And among the Sith we don’t use the term “padawan.”
Yes. But I save it for the religious posters.
Hate to break it to you, but I’m more chaotic good than anything… Can we start a Sith/Jedi Big-brother program?
We tried having an annual Sith/Jedi baseball game but the Jedi called us for bringing ringers so we just cut off all their right hands.
So that’s how Jar Jar Binks became a DH! Meesa never knew that.
Thanks, BigT, that was exactly it. There was a bit of residual resentment from prior threads mixed in there too. I realize I was asking for people’s opinions. There is, however, a difference between giving your own opinion and telling someone else they shouldn’t be feeling what they’re feeling in a certain situation. Especially when it’s done in a condescending way, such as giving anctedotes about people who live lives of bitterness because they aren’t enlightened enough to magically avoid getting irritated by anything in life. :rolleyes: You can offer advice about what to do in a situation, but telling someone thier feelings are “silly” or wrong because you don’t agree with them is indeed condescending and far from productive.
CatWhisperer, thanks. It was definately the snowball effect. She’s getting games now and is ordering pizza and getting a bunch of beer, and texted me saying if I’m feeling too stressed out that it’s okay to flake. I might take her up on that.
Now you went & turned this into a Chick tract.
You asked a question in a forum for opinions so you are going to get them. Not everyone will agree with you. I tend to think this is a really big non-issue.
I’m not a college student… I’m a middle aged, middle class, suburban dad. First of all, bringing board games is nothing. Just take that off of your concerns. The “entertainment” is the social gathering.
I would be very glad to hear that more people are coming. I like meeting new people and making new friends. As far as wine goes, I would never think of showing up at a party without at least one bottle. Now if they really are expecting you to bring drinks for the entire group that would be very strange, but I would assume that all couples would be bringing wine.
Desert… if I volunteered to bring dessert I would normally bring enough for a dozen even if I thought it would just be four of us. Why? Because it is better to have enough to feed any extra people who may happen to drop by, and if not who doesn’t like extra desserts?
You mentioned you have social anxiety, and I think that may be more of the issue. You were expecting a small gathering and now it is growing above your comfort level. The other things IMHO are excuses for why you are mad. I don’t mean that to be anything negative, but just my interpretation of what I read. I don’t have social anxiety so I don’t feel that way… you do so you do. Again these are just individual opinions.
Be sure to log on again on Sunday and tell us how it worked out.
Concerning her saying that she’s getting some games, and arranging beer and pizza and that she’d understand if you decided to flake at the last minute, why in the world would you do that, just when she’s starting to get it right? Not only does it sound as though she doesn’t have much experience at being a hostess; it sounds like she was hoping she could learn good hostessing skills by practicing them on you. And then got a little over-enthusiastic and over her head.
Have you ever asked her how the idea of a game night put itself into her head? I don’t want to be providing her backstory, but maybe she was introduced to the concept by an earlier friend who is no longer available to play that part in her life.
P.S. Hope you have a good time. 
I haven’t read this whole thread. I just jumped here from the pit thread. But if it interests the OP, I would like to say that I think MoodIndigo1 was spot on.
I would follow through, show up with great drinks, desserts and sparkling conversation, then flat out let the hostess know (privately) that you won’t be attending any further gatherings, as this one turned into a bit more than you bargained for.
MoodIndigo didn’t actually suggest saying that to the hostess, but I would.
Good thing you didn’t waste your precious time to read any of the rest of the thread or we would have never been blessed with your wisdom!
Thank god! Can you imagine me wasting my precious time! It would be almost as bad as you wasting your precious time reading a post that starts off by warning you that one hasn’t read the thread. You know, so you can skip that post if you so chose.
This may explain why I have no friends, but…
You also get to go to Costco.
Buy 2 jugs of “white” wine.
Buy 1 frozen pie (or cake)
(I’d also buy replacements for any games you might take - I suspect you might not see your again (to be extra-extra nasty - buy Candyland and, maybe Chutes and Ladders)
Since the wine must be cooled, and the pie baked (put it in with the lasagna!) - drop them off in the afternoon with your “something’s come up” regrets
Wow, talk about your passive aggressive methods of punishing your hostess! 
I am in absolute 100% agreement with this.
Glad the situation was settled to your satisfaction, lezlers, and I hope your game night was enjoyable.
Still, I do think your reaction to even sven’s opinion was out of line.