I just got back from the house of one of my ex’s. I was having car troubles and I needed his opinion, so I went over and stood in his driveway while he looked things over and helped me out.
This ex calls me almost every day, cuz he likes to talk to me. We sometimes casually talk about sex and relationship stuff (because he’s a perv and he wants to know). We spent Valentine’s Day together lamenting our lack of love life, watching movies and eating pizza. We are NOT BFFs tho…I have much closer friends than him.
But, we have stuff in common. I just got turned off by him sexually. When I heard of his post-me exploits, I got even more turned off. I think it took him a while to realize I was really serious about not ever being his booty call, but he’s gotten the point now. We are friends and I think I would invite him to my wedding if it ever came up.
I’ve got some exes who I wouldn’t piss on if they were on fire, and some who are my Facebook friends. I don’t want to do ANY of them.
Hmmmm, AFAIK I’m still on frlendly terms with all my ex’s, although I’ve lost touch with a few. As for ex’s and the Ikea instruction booklet tango, I’ve never. I’m willing, and they might be, but it’s been impossible for the time being.
I did have a couple of exes that were booty calls on retainer. But since I got married, those exes are just friends. One is married himself; another is very respectful of the institution of marriage. The third, I haven’t spoken to in years because he went nuts and I stopped being his friend.
Not only no, but hell no. The one ex who I’ve ever been in touch with creeped me out so badly that there is no way I’d ever consider being in the same state with him, let alone the same bed. And I’m sure my husband would have something to say about it in any case.
Your joking I hope? My exes are exes for a reason. I am still friendly with some of them but that part of the relationship is over. If sex was all I was after I would rather be with a stranger. At least it would be exciting. :dubious:
It might be different if I was still in love with any of them. There is one ex that I regret today leaving but he is happily married. If I ran into him today I might still feel love for him but not in a sexual way.
No, that is just wrong. It is like “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” mentality. In reality if it was you would still be there. Well, this is just my opinion.
I know this. When he got in touch with me on Facebook, I thought we could be friends. But he’d steer the conversation toward sex so often, and in such disgusting terms even though I told him to knock it off, that the creepy set in and I blocked him.
I picked ‘We are just friends, so I do not think of my ex as a booty call on retainer.’
I am friends with most of my exes. I don’t think that I would ever consider any of them to be a booty call on retainer. However, my most recent ex has made it clear that should I want to (and we are both single at the time), he’s there. We were never really serious about each other, and he’s actually one of the people I go to for guy advice, and I’m usually the first person he calls when he wants to make a move on someone.
So you’re not friends with him, so he doesn’t count. This was about maintaining close friendships with serious exes (people you lived with or were married to). I don’t really count facebook “friendships” either. My “booty call” remark was made about exes who people still see frequently in person and claim to be “best friends” with.
I’ve had four long term living-together relationships in my life:
I have no interest in either being friends with her or shagging her.
We’re good friends, but I have no interest in shagging her.
We’re good friends, but I have no interest in shagging her.
I have no interest in either being friends with her or shagging her.
Would I be interested in shagging any of the short-termers from my past? Possibly, but it’s never happened, and I see no likelihood of it ever happening.
Maybe a sex breakdown on these responses would be interesting. Are men more likely to think of their past girlfriends as potential casual-sex partners, whereas women are less likely to do so?
As a girl, and someone who has done the ex-booty-call in the past, I admit that it was only when I was feeling badly about myself and looking for some variant of love. People who are happy in a relationship aren’t keeping their exes around as booty-call possibilities.
My ex wife and I are civil, but not friends. She’s full of a whole raft of crazy and I will never stick it to that again. My last girlfriend dated a year and a half and I are still really good friends. One of the reasons we broke up was sexual incompatibility, so even if she wanted to now I wouldn’t go for it. It would just be awkward.
