It’s less of a downgrade and more of futile dream, I’m afraid.
resistance is futile
I’m actually partial to this.
Knowing what you want, AND TELLING THOSE WHO WILL NEED TO KNOW, means 90% of the hard work has already been done. I haven’t had to deal with this, but my parents and sister-in-law have.
But it can be fun if done right. What is the ‘Safe Word’?
You are a triple bad candidate for a human-human transplant. David Crosby bad. I was pretending to be optimistic even though I think installing Ghost Organs will stomp all over your karma.
ask a mortician is the best! really great series.
chefguy if i remember properly, you are in washington… this is possible in washington.
Human composting: How Washington is writing the guidebook to a green burial | king5.com
Becks, you did scare us, but I have learned to take funeral planning seriously. If you know what you want write it down.
I know what we want, for you to get healthier so you can keep playing practical jokes on your family and telling us about it. I have my prayer machine running for you.
I hear Arkansas is beautiful in the spring. Never been down anywhere near there or your border states.
OH! There are lots of places I’d like to see before I go.
I didn’t mean to scare anyone.
I forget sometimes, that crap that lives in my head should stay there.
I really do believe that the taboo of talking about death is wrong.
We live, we die. The circle of life, yada yada yada.
I still want a Dopefest and @Cecil_Adams to come in my thread.
Please please Unca Cecil. Give me a nod. A wave. A word. A thought-out-loud.
Anything. I’m not proud.
Nah, it doesn’t need to stay there.
You just need to add a bit of a preface: Hey, everybody! I’m not dying right this minute, but I want to plan my funeral!
Wisdom has been spoken. 
Is there a blush icon somewhere in all those undersized emojis?
That one. 
I couldn’t agree more. Our culture is positively weird about death. We don’t talk about it, discourage people from thinking about it, and when it happens, we expect those close to the dead person to pop back to normal in, oh, say, the length of the average sit-com.
We live in a culture of denial. It’s twisted–cruel, even, when it comes to the bereaved and those who are afraid of death.
The wisdom and smarts on this board astound me.
Hang around here and you’ll learn things.
I can’t even imagine what I’ll learn next.
Thinking ahead is not a bad thing. We all need to do it.
As an aside, the last time I checked, the only companies online advertising turning ones ashes into mortar-style fireworks were in England. One would definitely have to plan ahead for that.
No, you really can’t. But I’m working on some ideas…
That’s the entire premise of the YouTube channel of the video I linked.
It’s not quite my cup of tea to go as far as she has, but I do think there are important, practical topics related to death that we all need to sometimes discuss. And the stuff you’re bringing up here is one of them.
Though, I admit, I was also worried from your title.
Wife knew people who used dialysis day as an opportunity to eat forbidden fruit, like cottage cheese. You can hit Sonic for a corndog before your appointment.
Now that’s a plus!
For a frank discussion about death and dying it is hard to beat comedian Doug Stanhope’s account of his mother’s death in Digging Up Mother: A Love Story. The audio book is unlike any other you have heard, it’s tales of wretchedness and debauchery managing to be life affirming and touching. God knows how. Other participants in the story drop in to read portions and dispute Doug’s recollections. Very strange stuff.
He begins the book with his mother’s death. The story can be read in the preview at Amazon, here : Digging Up Mother. Perhaps it will bring tears too your eyes just as it does to mine.