by Ukelele Ike
That looks good to me! Dark with light makes for a pleasing contrast to the eye. Two different colors of similar lightness make for visual dissonance akin to two adjacent piano keys being played simulatenously.
I don’t think so-I mean, hot pink and beige? Lime green and beige?
Nope, I can’t see it.
Dark crimson wine and beige? Eeeeh…if it’s a golden kind of beige, not that dirty carpet kind of beige.
So, um, since jeans go with everything, how about beige jeans?
Or am I about to be slapped with a wet noodle for even asking?
::Looks as his navy T-shirt and black dress pants::
ah, well, at least i’m wearing pants this time…
Eeek! I have worn khaki and beige with many shades of blue (including navy). I have worn khaki pants with dark colored shirts. And I had to look up “prepossessing” after reading Eve’s pit post.
I feel so inadequate!
Eve, how do they not go together? ~looks down at her navy shirt and khaki shorts~ Eddie Bauer will be sorely disappointed…
Now navy and black, I’m with you there…
Ferret Herder, one of the other girls was Persephone (sp?)
Also Eve, there is a guy that I work with (white as the lily) who said he would never marry a white girl, only Asian or Mexican, because they “age better”. He’s married to a Mexican lady now.
He is ugly, did I mention that. He’s worried about how someone will age, with that face? ~sigh~
Beige goes nicely with black.
Navy is lovely with white.
Black and navy together are only acceptable when watching lacrosse, and then only sometimes.
Dark pants or skirt with a lighter-colored top is supposed to make you look taller and thinner.
On that principal, I have worn black pants and a navy sweater. I am a fool.
/Hijack
No. He was a man when we married. Some seven years later he acquired the legal status and physical body of a woman. I’m sure if I met him for the first time now, even knowing his history, I would think of him and refer to him as she and her. But he was my husband. I taught him how to do make up, and how to dress like a real woman rather than a slut on acid (which seems to me to be what most ts’s do when they first start out - presumably from lack of experience and eagerness to get into the most “feminine” outfit they can find). To me, the surgery simply took the costume down to another level. He was still himself and always would be. Sorry if that’s not PC enough for you folks, but hey, I wasn’t going to lie about it.
Not surprisingly, this caused some friction between us, but it was not why we split up. We split up because I couldn’t imagine that he went through all of that in order to remain married to me, and because, much as I loved him, I knew I was and am better suited to living alone.
/End Hijack
Is there something terribly wrong with me, that I find the question of finding True Love as a transsexual less fascinating than the question of whether I’m committing a fashion faux pas by wearing a navy shirt with khaki pants?
I mean, Eve knows that she has an active fan club here at the SDMB, and it sounds like, despite the naysayers, she’s fairly content with her life, but if I ever do get to meet her, I’d hate to think she was saying to herself, ‘This FisherQueen is utterly lacking in taste, to wear khaki pants with a navy shirt.’ I’d probably have to go off and commit hari-kiri in an attempt to redeem myself.
Does arterial red go with navy?
I’m backing quietly out of this thread: The OP has been settled; I do not wish to offend you lovely navy-and-khaki wearers; and there is no way in hell I am touching the tar baby AvhHines just dropped on us.
If you’re genuinely happy about being single I say more power to you. I too feel like I will probably never again get into a relationship.
But frankly, the impression I get from your posts is that you feel like no man would ever accept you because you’re transgender (from the above quote and the “run for the hills” quote in the OP). I doubt that’s true.
I can believe that most hetero men in the 80s couldn’t deal with it. On the other hand, I recall one of my bisexual friends telling me a while back that he doesn’t think of potential partners in terms of gender. I’m sure nowadays there are other men out there (bisexual or otherwise) who don’t freak out at the thought of dating a transgendered person. If you ever decide you want to date again, perhaps online dating would be more fruitful…not necessarily on a website FOR TG dating (although a quick websearch I just did showed that, sure enough, there are such dating sites)…but even just using a general site like match.com would make it easier to screen out guys who have a problem than it would have been years ago.
You seem like you’ve got a lot going for you, so I’m not saying you should necessarily be dating. I agree that not everyone needs to have a partner. But I think if you want to date you need not consider it a lost cause.
Lovely. Not the visual effect, of course. The wit. You’ve made my day, FQ.
If Eve peremptorily asserts that beige and navy are a definite faux pas, I shudder to think what her reaction would be at the sight of arterial red and navy…
AvhHines, you two were better apart anyway. :rolleyes:
KellyM, I don’t know if you’re rolling your eyes about me or my ex, but you’re right. We are better off, but again, that’s because I’m much better suited to being alone.
Eve, I’m not sure what throwing a tar baby into the thread means, but please believe me when I say that I’m not the enemy. I was extremely supportive of my husband’s choice (and it was a choice in his case; he was not suicidal, self-mutilating, or even desperately unhappy, but rather decided that he would be happier as a woman). But he had been (and in my eyes still was) my husband. I couldn’t see him any other way, no matter what he looked like. If it offends you that I continued to call him “he” and “him,” I’m truly sorry, because you strike me as someone whose good opinion I’d like to have. But while I accomodated his wants and needs as far as I could, this did not negate my own. I perceived him as a man, and I was and am unwilling to lie about something as important as that within my own marriage.
AvhHines, for someone who claims to be supportive you certainly do not understand. Your ex is better off without you.
I agree that he is better off without me, but not for the reasons you obviously believe to be true. If you choose to make that kind of judgement while knowing nothing whatsoever of my ex, me, or our circumstances, that’s your problem. Enjoy your sense of moral surperiority.
AvhHines, I only know what you have told us here. And from that we can conclude that, indeed, you do not understand, you do not wish to understand, and in fact you choose not to understand. As such, your ex (and in fact the entire world) is better off without you. Small wonder you can’t find someone to share your life.
If this is not the conclusion you wish for others to draw about you, you should either clarify your statements, or change your attitudes.
You know, I once heard of a club made up of men who were turned on by women in casts.
F_X
What do you think AvhHines doesn’t understand? The need of her husband to identify as a woman, and thus to have everyone in his life now refer to him as such?
It’s probably not easy just to switch from calling your husband a man, to calling him a woman… even once the operation is done, y’know. Maybe you should consider THAT, KellyM.
Yes, gender idientity is important… but to suddenly refer to someone whom you were MARRIED to as a woman (when in all your history together, you’d known him as a man… pre-op TS or not) probably isn’t as easy as 1-2-3.
I generally don’t go telling people what they can do or not, but don’t you DARE go around telling people who might not have such a full understanding of the TS world… that kind of stuff. Certainly I don’t take it lightly when people tell others that the entire world is better off without them because of some unseen fault in them.
If she doesn’t refer to husband as a woman these days, that COULD be wrong in your eyes. (I’m getting that impression from your posts) But it ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT MEAN that everyone is better off without her. Attacking her self-esteem and self-image is not going to fly with me, at the very least.
She was as supportive as she could be… giving him pointers on how to dress, how to apply makeup, and so on. And if she decided that she was better off living alone, that doesn’t mean that she was such a bitch that not even her husband could get along with her. So don’t you dare say anything like that again!
Then again, this is just my heterosexual opinion… feel free to discount it if you wish. :rolleyes:
F_X