Honestly, in that case, I can well imagine that he might not keep in contact with you and his other friends out of embarrassment at how little progress he’s made in his life. He may not want to be reminded of how much more his friends have made of theirs.
This is our best guess. We certainly don’t look down on him in any way, just part of the gang, but if I were in his place I could definitely see there being self-esteem issues if your friends are a constant reminder of not ‘making it’.
My Brother, Andy did this.
No explanation.
Then, he died, & we never made up.
A friend of mine on FB kept ghosting me, despite the fact that it had been the kind of relationship where I never would have expected that to happen. We’d shared a lot of personal info about our families growing up, had many common interests, etc., etc. It really sucked because the friend’s image kept appearing at the top of all my groups, and FB kept reminding me that “Priscilla Lauren Palpatine Isaacs” liked this or that page when I would have preferred not have it shoved in my face. Finally I had had enough and pulled the “Unfriend” pin.
And then she blocked me — about nine weeks later, presumably when she finally noticed!
Which really says it all.
Update: Never heard from this guy again.
Another update: I suspect this “friend” got me removed from the local car club email list.
Upcoming event, and I was somehow not informed/invited. Heard about it through the Grapevine, so to speak.
Had plans, anyway. 
Bastard. I think that’s taking it too far. Next he’ll be cutting off the beer supply. :mad:
That’s just wrong, Gato. You can hang with us cool kids;)
Interesting thread. I think all of us know the reasons why people “ghost” when it comes to romantic/intimate relationships.
However, when this happens in a platonic friendship (especially when the people are the same gender), I think the reasons may be more nebulous.
This makes perfect sense to me. This guy didn’t think he could relate to you all anymore since he stayed in town & didn’t really change too much as a person, while you all left. Not saying this guy is any better off - or worse off - than anyone else, but the perception he may have is that you’re all successes - while he hasn’t made much progression.
This is not the same thing, but I can relate to this to some extent. As it turns out, I was the guy who left the area he grew up & moved half-way across the country for a new job over 20 years ago. I had a small circle of friends at the time, and they all stayed in that area. For the first several years after I moved, I used to go home for the holidays (about once a year) to visit family, and also made time to catch up with friends. However, as time went on it became tough to get ahold of some of them, and and not long after I completely stopped going back. Now, I’ve lost touch with all of them - which is fine. We have little to nothing in common anymore these days, anyway. Again, I don’t FB or do any social media for that matter, and have no interest in keeping up friendships electronically.
Funny thing an old boss once said to me:
“My wife said she was going to cut me off. I told her, you can’t cut me off if you don’t know where I’m gettin’ it!”
Can’t cut my beer off. I brew my own! 
Friends don’t let friends have narcassistic friends.
Weeeee! :o
The automatic Windows update ghosted Chess Titans for me. I still got the dogs.
Ghostopescado
Has a ring to it.
Ach, being ghosted is never fun.
Had that happen to me a few times but usually I can figure out why or at least make a decent guess - there’s one I never have quite figured out, though. (Bear with me, this gets a bit convoluted…)
For a bit I was dating a lovely Aussie lady; we eventually broke it off due to distance and I don’t think that had anything to do with it but I could be wrong. We also made it a habit to write things together, both being quite prolific writers who appreciated the same things, so for basically the entire time we’d known each other we bounced the craziest of ideas off one another, more often than not somehow managing to shape these rough lumps of literary…erm, manure…into some actually quite nice ideas. This is relevant, I swear.
Both of us being appreciative of the same things, she’d recommended a game I ought to try out and pointed me to where I could download a demo of it, so I did. I played the demo, I found it quite nice, and - most importantly - it gave me an Idea.
So as one does, I bounced this Idea off of her.
I’ve literally no idea what happened, as this was no different than other times we’d done this before, but she. Flipped. Out. How dare I have an idea when I’d only finished the demo and hadn’t played the whole game. What did I think I was doing, trying to have an Idea. What do. How dare. Alarming amounts of vitriol like I’d never seen her spew before. So, I apologized, tossed the Idea into the figurative bin and did not speak of it again.
And then she up and quit talking to me. Over a silly idea.
It, however, did not end there. A year later, almost to the day, I woke up to an email in my inbox from her, and quite honestly I felt I’d stepped back in time - she was just as pleasant and friendly as I could remember, and appeared to have literally no bloody clue that I had ever thrown the Idea at her. However. I reminded her of the Idea, and wondered just what the bloody hell had happened, and up went the defensive hackles, she’d never ever done anything like that to me, how dare I accuse her of such, grr, arg, rar.
This is where I admit I took a flying leap into the Pit of Pettiness right along with her and told her I was still just a bit sore that she’d up and quit speaking to me for an entire bloody year over a silly idea, that I promptly discarded anyway as I felt I valued her friendship over silly ideas.
That was three or four years ago. She’s not spoken to me since and effectively disappeared off every single online community we were even both tangentially related to one another in.
And I’ve still no idea what the hell happened.
Happened to my cousin. Her best friend since grade school stopped speaking to her.
BF and Cuz are talking on the phone, and BF gripes about “ragheads.” Cuz asks her not to use that term. BF then ghosts her.
Spent the day with the dogs, and going over to cook dinner for my mom and watch The Game on the new TV I bought her.
Nobody needs to see my old car anyway. And she don’t wanna consort with no “Trailer Queens” anyway. 
You’re a nice guy. Cooking for your mom and getting her a new TV. How could anyone ghostify you? That just beats all.
- ( making mom watch the game seems a bit much:))
I’m sorry. That guy had no right to have you excluded from club events (if he did, emails can get caught up in spam filters and stuff). If he doesn’t want to be friends, that’s his decision, but messing with your social activities is just not on. Have a time out, and then get back to the club if it’s something you want to do.
Feeling bad about being ghosted by a narcissist is like feeling disappointed that a tornado hit all your neighbours but not you.
Friendship or romance, ghosting is a terrible and cowardly thing to do to people. I’m so sorry your supposed friend did it to you. You don’t deserve the hurt and confusion. Can you contact the car club to find out what happened, or is it not worth it to you?