You have to know what tact is before you think to Google it. Hopefully this will shed some light on the situation.
Uh huh. The messages in our posts were identical but the phrasing was a bit different. That is the only reason for the onslaught of criticism I have faced for my participation in Frank’s thread? You all are a bunch of dishonest ass-wipes.
Dude, that’s almost the exact definition of tact, more intelligent (or sensitive, in this case) phrasing.
I know. ??
Then that’s why you’re getting grief and someone, who expressed the same sentiments, isn’t.
Then why are you still confused? And how are we the ass-wipes when you are completely tone-deaf to how your comments come across?
You have a posting history that is confrontational and the perception of said history is that it is less than honest on occasion.
Ridiculous. He is called out because most of his stories go something like, “I was being as polite as I could then this asshole…”. It strains credibility.
Mind you, I don’t dislike him nor do I wish to see him banned but given that this is a message board and I come here for the entertainment of interaction with others, I will offer my opinions about his posts on occasion.
That said, to play nice I offer you both a smile.
Re-read my posts. I am not getting bogged down in this pit bullshit again. This criticism is disingeneous. Some members on this board (it’s always the same ole names) like to use any excuse (whether valid or not) to totally bash and smear my character. Ok, I admit to perhaps using awkward wording in my post. But that’s it. The guy who started the thread himself has accepted my apology for my wording. I have nothing else to say. :dubious:
Jamie, once again I offer the combined wisdom of the SDMB and the world: Shut your cakehole and let the world move on, because all will be forgotten when the next trainwreck comes along but only if you SHUT UP. You might even be right and I would still offer this advice, sometimes the only remedy is to let go of needing to be right, of needing things to be fair, of needing to be understood correctly and simply SHUTTING UP.
In case you are NOT CLEAR. this is a time to SHUT UP.
Mom?
Do you agree that the tone of a statement is an important factor in how it is perceived? Just because you have good intentions doesn’t make it OK to behave in any sort of manner to get your point across. The whole reason people jumped on you is the “awkward wording” as you put it. I might refer to it as “blunt and insensitive” and so would a few others. This is the point that you don’t seem to be taking on board.
It’s great that Frank accepted your apology and I don’t want to harp on that particular exchange any more, so I’d rather steer this conversation to a more general place if you’d care to continue. I think you should try and see if there are ways you can communicate better without being so abrasive. People will be more willing to accommodate to your handicap and give you the respect you think you deserve if you show them some respect first.
100 quatloos says he responds.
Actually, even for devout Christians it can be annoying. I remember as a kid my school principal telling me something like that when my aunt died and I knew she meant well, I was like, “well, does that mean I should be HAPPY?” Granted, she was a nun, so it was natural for her to say things like that, but it still was annoying to me. I didn’t care.
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Yeah, right, except you did. Reason-for-edit is your new ‘I’m not saying it (but I’m saying it)’.
Anyone know what he said? Now I’m curious.
sigh No, I mean what you said before you decided to pull your little passive-aggressive, “thought better of returning to this thread” bullshit. Jesus.
How many times have you done that in the last two days?
Wait. McGarry wasn’t banned way back when? Drat.