I quit my job a while ago.
For a very long time - almost as long as I’ve been a member of these boards - I’ve been a teacher in programs for at-risk kids. I’ve spent my entire professional career desperately trying to mitigate (not fix, not undo, not solve) the carnage that our society inflicts on its most vulnerable members. You know how we talk about kids ‘falling through the cracks’? Do you know where they end up afterwards? Hi, hello, with people like me.
No bragging here. The job beat me. I lost. TKO.
I’ve taken a pay cut, but I have an office with a door I can close whenever I want. I have two (two!) huge windows with a really nice view. I work in a lovely office with lovely people.
Plus, the odds that someone I interact with daily will be arrested or beaten or murdered have gone way down. So I’ve got that going for me, which is nice.
I’ve been a frog in slowly boiling water, except the pot was full of other frogs who have been abandoned by a system that was supposed to have nurtured and protected them.
So yeah. I left. And ever since then, I’ve been slowly exhaling. Slowly realizing how wound up I was. How tightly I’d contracted around my own core. How I wasn’t really joking when I’d joke about having a coal-fired engine where my heart used to be.
I love you all, and I hope every one of you will take more time to practice mindfulness. I hope none of you are in your own pots and, if you are, I hope you take the time to realize it and to take the healthy steps you and yours deserve.
And I’m angry at almost all of you, because I know almost nobody’s putting in the work. Not the real work. Not the grinding, melancholy, desperate work that’s nine losses for every win. I know this because if everyone did it, nobody would need to. Schools like mine are symptoms of too many people choosing not to give a shit.
If you’re getting ready to explain your status as the exception, stop. Exhale. It’s okay. If you are, you don’t have to explain yourself to an internet stranger. If you aren’t, I’m not going to bother explaining how your performative feel-good actions are ultimately useless. I’m sure you mean well. It’s the thought that counts, right? ha ha ha no not really the thought is fucking meaningless and children are dying every day
So that’s it. My days are now filled with the tiniest, least consequential problems you can think of. Like how I don’t have local admin rights on my computer, or choosing the right plants to put in my office, or how people in the parking garage seem to be really bad at parking in just one space. I love it.
I don’t have a satisfying conclusion for this post! Much like my career, I’ll let it end abruptly and in the middle of