Warning Long Rambling Post
Names changed to protect me
I’ve had a childhood friend named Sarah. Sarah and I have had our fights in the past, but we got past it. I had introduced Sarah to Jennifer who I was dating for a while. They became friends and would do things together at times. I helped Jennifer’s friend Samantha get a job where I work.
The relationship between me and Jennifer changed. I realized I wasn’t happy and told Jennifer that I wanted to end the relationship. She wanted us to be friends and I said I could handle that and all was cool.
About six month ago I started seeing Lucy. Because of her I had less time for Sarah and Jennifier. This annoyed Jennifer because she felt I had changed and not for the better. I think the problem was I had less time for her.
In the meantime I heard from another party that Jennifer would steal from stores. I didn’t pay it any mind because I didn’t know if it was true and wasn’t going to confront her.
A few months ago Sarah told me that she had to go to court for Jeinnifer. I told her I didn’t want to know anything and the matter dropped.
A few weeks ago Jennifer and I got into a fight because I asked her to not E-mail me every morning asking how I was or what I did the night before and she felt I was being mean. She wanted our friendship to be how it was in the past. (I think she was looking for more than friendship)
Last week I found out from Sarah that Jennifer was arrested for shoplifting but was able to pay a fine and not have a criminal record. This came up because Jennifer was fired from her job (unrelated incident) and was concerned about being able to get a new job.
Jennifer found out from Sarah that I knew about the arrest but told her Hillary told me. I was honest with Jennifer and told her that Sarah told me and that pissed off both of them.
Sarah told me she didn’t want to hear from me ever again and from my Pov I was partially glad because neither Jennifer to Sarah were now talking to me and I felt that I don’t need this childish bs at my point in life. We are in our 30’s not teens.
(some of my other friends (male) have not detected a change in me)
On Sunday I did send Sara a text wishing her mother a Happy Mother’s day. I was hoping enough time passed for Sarah to become rational and we could work on fixing the friendship she responded along the lines of OK but I don’t want to hear form you again.
I didn’t respond because If someone doesn’t want to hear from me I’m not going to pester someone who has made it clear they don’t want to hear from me.
Then on Tuesday I get a text message in the early morning from Sarah telling me her mother passed away.
So I’m going to go to the wake and funeral in the next few days because it’s the right thing to do. Sarah said she wants to put this behind us because she needs her friends and I am a friend.
I do feel sad her her because she lost a parent and she has been having some personal problems for the past two years but I also feel angry because I thought I was though with the childish games but I know by being friends with Sarah and Jeniffer the games will restart.