Just wondering

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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For the record, I plan to re-subscribe for another year just for the purpose of being able to search, because I’ve found a lot of answers to things I needed to know over the course of the past year. I try not to overload the board with too many searches; normally my searches are, at most, once or twice a month. Not my point though.

What I’m wondering is how many people are still holding a grudge against me. From what I’ve read from random browsing, people around here don’t tend to forget things easily, if even at all, as I’ve seen references to my infamous thread as recently as within the past month, when said thread took place a few years ago.

I know that I made some major mistakes in regards to that thread, and I’d like anyone who may be (but probably isn’t) interested to know that my gramma still has her cat, who NEVER goes outside, and is afraid to as old as she is. The one cat that I have now is confined to my bedroom, with her water and food and shitbox, a big bed to waller on, curtains to send tumbling to the floor, and plenty of cat-appeasing hiding places and catcrack(nip) toys to hide in my shoes. She crawls under the covers with me at night. If, by chance, my bedroom door cracks open and she escapes, the entire household is under strict orders NOT to open any means of access to the outside world. (The one time she got out of my room she immediately came and found me and climbed up my leg and perched on my shoulder.) She’s actually never been outside at all, to tell the truth. As for dogs, I took in a flood rescue dog from the flood we had and since my gramma wouldn’t even take monetary offers to let me bring him inside, I found him a home with a big back yard to play in and a big house to sleep in. I wanted to be the one to give him that, but these people were better suited to do so.

Enough digressing.

I’m not searching for sympathy here. I just want to know that if I post something from time to time, if any responses to my posts are going to be focused on my past mistakes. It has, after all, been a few years since my major fuck-up, and I do like to think that I’ve grown since then, and even though I exploded out of emotional turmoil, I did take everyone’s advice, no matter how vicious, to heart, and learned from the whole experience.

So. If I’m not welcome in this community, just let me know. I’ll take it in stride and restrict my continued membership to the occasional search and here-and-there browsing, because even if you guys don’t want my participation, I do still enjoy reading and learning from threads on your forum.

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You’re the cat killer right?

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I’ve never heard of you.

I still hold a grudge.

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I don’t have the first idea what you’re talking about, but ISTM that “how many people remember my puppy-kicking episode?” (or whatever, I gather it’s actually about cats) is not the way to make people forget it. It’s the corrolary to “How can we miss you if you don’t go away?”: How can we forget it if you keep bringing it up?

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That’s all I needed. My apologies if I constructed my post wrong.

My main objective was letting people know that I’ve changed my ways. I didn’t see anything wrong with that until now.

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Anyone with anything to say on that issue had a chance to say it when it was relevant. I’ve never been a fan of making snarky comments about posters’ past mistakes. I think you can content yourself with the knowledge that anyone still pissy about it is not someone you need to worry about. And this advice is coming from the guy who lies awake at night wondering if the person I walked by in the hall without saying hello to thinks I’m a douche.

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Wait a minute! You KILL CATS?

Hell, I’m putting you on my “Christmas Gift” list. (You got Paypal?)

I hate cats.

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I’m too new to know anything about it.

I’m tempted to go look it up, but then I might have to hold a grudge and I have too many of those already, so it’s all good with me. :cool:

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Ok…

I guess my best bet is to tread very, very slowly.

For the record, I didn’t “kill cats” on purpose. I made the (extremely common) mistake of letting my cats be indoor/outdoor cats, something I’ll never even think about considering doing again.

I’m neurotic about clearing up any and all misconceptions in all regards, be it online or in person, which is why I can’t help but bring up points that I feel need to be addressed. But hopefully I’m done doing that.

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An indoor/outdoor tiger would have showed that dog who’s boss.

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Some folks will hold grudges.
Some folks will let stuff be water under the bridge.

I suspect you’re obsessing a bit too much about the former. I also suspect that you would be well advised to e-mail a Mod for this Forum asking that this thread be closed before it becomes a lightning rod for people with too much time on their hands and too much desire to needle other posters.

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Total honesty?

I was surprised when I saw your username as having started a new thread, and the very first thing I thought of was, indeed, that thread of which you speak.

HOWEVER, your OP shows me that you acknowledge in a very real way why what you did was wrong, you’ve accepted that fact, educated yourself about how to do better and have taken action towards making yourself a better pet owner.

So, now, as far as I’m concerned, it’s water under the bridge. Of course, I don’t speak for anyone else here! But the animosity I felt for you at the time was based on your refusal to admit wrong and be proactive in changing that. I no longer feel that to be the case, so the animosity is no longer useful. Certainly I can’t hold you to a higher standard than myself, and I’m as fallible as the next gal; learning from your mistakes is the mark of a good person.

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Excellent advice.