I really, REALLY like this particular response.
I’m reaching here, but perhaps you’re sort of thinking that dealing with a crappy job will help her develop some version of responsibility but there are other ways to do it and, in many situations, that early volunteer work can really parlay itself into a good career.
You should be supportive of her and encourage her to quit a lousy job.
PS- She can quit if she wants to. She’s an adult, right? What would you do if you didn’t “let” her and she quit anyway…kick her out?
You know what sucks about working a job like that when you’re 20? It’s that you’re 20 - and everyone else there is 14 on up. Her manager might even be younger than her.
That’s not a huge deal once you’re working in a “profession” and you’re 40 and there’s a bunch of “young kid” 25 year olds working with you…but when you’re 20, working with a bunch of kids is absolutely the pits. There’s a huuuge difference between young people in high school and young people already a year into college (or more). I had to work like that one summer…once I had to call a 17-year-old “Mr. So-and-so” I realized I would much much rather have the summer off.
She’s a big girl. Let he be a big girl and quit her second job. She knows she’d rather have less money than have to put up with shit at the ice cream place.
LET?
You’re being unreasonable, dude. It’s not your decision to make.
Besides, who the hell works one minute more than they have to anyway? No need or desire for the extra money earned at a crap-ass job- WHY keep it?
If I could (respectfully) play devil’s advocate: maybe learning that it’s okay to leave a job that makes one unhappy is something more adults should learn? Work doesn’t have to equal misery.
I say she should quit.
I worked full time all through college. The only exceptions were that I worked part time between high school graduation and my freshman year (1994) and summer 1996 when I moved out here to Nevada.
I haven’t had a had a summer off in 11 years. I have been out of college for 5 years and working at full time “real jobs”. I really miss having a summer off.
You’re only young once. Let her enjoy her summer.
The important thing is that I remember from another thread that the ice cream place is Cold Stone and you live in my area - so my advice is to not let her quit until she can scam me some free ice cream. Then she can leave because I agree with the other posters. But I mainly want free ice cream.
Dude, just let her quit the job, before she realizes she’s legally an adult and you can’t make her do ANYTHING anymore. If I were your kid I’d have quit the job without even telling you.
Pay her 5 bucks to make sure your clubs are spotless after each round.
Oh yeah. Let her quit.
Is this a first? Everyone in the thread is saying the same thing…I feel like this isn’t the dope anymore.
Um, she’s a college freshman and living at home. Legal or not, that’s hardly an adult. She want’s to be an “adult” so bad, go learn what it’s like to need a job you hate to pay the rent.
That said, I wouldn’t get too worked up over it. I always worked during the summers because I needed money and working for a disorganized frozen yogurt store manager was one of the most fun jobs I had…until they hired some organized bitch and she fired the lot of us. 
Come to think of it, I get fired from a lot of jobs. Ah well.
Are jobs really “tight” where you are? Let her quit in any case as it sounds like money isn’t the biggest issue. She can sharpoen her jon serach skills, and fatten up her resume. Also, are their any local organizations she could vol;unteer with that relate to her field of study?
just some thoughts
(and good luck to you and her)
FML
Well, given the unanimity of the responses, I’m glad to be able to report that when I got home yesterday she had just gotten back from quitting that job.
I’m certainly glad to discuss any aspects of this that anyone might wish to, but the situation I originally was wondering about has resolved to my satisfaction.
I’ll observe, however, that the word “let” did not appear in my OP.
Thanks, as always, for the input. (And you are right - it is ALL about losing the ice cream discount!) 
Dinsdale, I think her time would be better spent doing something related to her major where she can get experience, not a minimum wage job. Is she far from campus? Working/volunteering in a lab or doing some research would really set her up for internships, scholarship opportunities, and good letters of rec. If not at her college, maybe there’s a local institution that might have opportunities. Hell, volunteering 5 hours a week is enough to make a great impression on a research project.
I won’t say let her quit. It’s up to her, not Dinsdale to make that choice. I say support her quiting, and she can look for another job if she needs more money. It’s time to support the idea that she is an adult, that needs to decide stuff like this herself.
Sorry to disagree with most. Sooner or later, she will work at a job she hates. But she will need the money then. And, at 20, she should be working.
If she was 14, maybe quitting wouldn’t be a bad option. But not at 20. Time to step up to the plate.
But she is working. This was her second job to pick up extra hours that aren’t available from her normal job.
To continue the hijack in which I unknowingly participated,
msmith, a parent can let a child watch TV or borrow the car or even use the washing machine. But quitting a job has nothing to do with the parent, and even the “my house, my rules” thing is a little bit farfetched to use as a stick for a job.
As for the daughter, good for her.
If she needs extra money down the road, she can always get another crappy job.
I guess I will be the dissenting voice and say, she should keep working there until she has another job or volunteer position lined up. And as for not needing the money…honey, it is never to early to start saving for a down payment on a house or for retirement. If I could go back 30 years and pick up an extra summer job when I didn’t need the money, and if I were smart enough to save and invest that money, I would. Financial independence and security will give her all the leisure time she needs when she has a family to raise. Let her work hard while she’s young and her body can take it! What’s that formula Dave Ramsey is always quoting, about investing some small amount per month for 30 years will yield so many millions of dollars…? She could OWN Cold Stone Creamery in a few years and fire that guy!
If this isn’t reason to let, nay, encourage her to quit the job promply then I don’t know what is. Anyone who would let their child grow up to own Cold Stone Creamery needs to do the right thing for the public good and jump off a cliff.
That aside, if she’s fiscally responsible and a good student, what merit is there in forcing her to stay in a miserable job? It’s understandable you don’t want her laying about the poolside like Benjamin Braddock all summer, but with a little encouragement she can certainly make better use of her time than dishing out ice cream to snot-nosed kids.
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