My boyfriend has just found out that his childrens’ stepfather has been arrested on charges of child molestation. I’m looking for advice on what he should do.
My boyfriend “Greg” has three boys by his ex-wife “Susan”, ages 12, 10, and 8. They live with Susan, her husband (“Stepfather”), and Susan & Stepfather’s three younger children (ages 4, 2 1/2 and 4 months).
Anyway, today Greg found this in the local newspaper:
Our educated guess is that the child he is charged with molesting is the child of a friend of theirs, not Greg’s boys.
Greg wants to find out more information about these charges, and how to best find out if his kids have been harmed in any way. (Susan has not yet been forthcoming with any information, and has not returned Greg’s calls.)
We called the jail, and Stepfather is no longer being held - so he must have posted bail, although they would not tell us specifically. So where is Stepfather now? Is he going to be allowed to return to the home with 6 young children?
We called the court and district attorney’s office, and they had no information on the case yet - they said to call the sheriff’s office. So we did, and initially they would not give any information on the case - they said that they could not discuss it with anyone but parties to the case. However, we stressed that Greg is the father of three children living in the household and he is concerned for their well being. They said a detective would call him back.
So what do we do now?! I am shocked and very concerned for the children. I am also concerned because based on comments that Susan has made on her MySpace page, she is convinced of her husband’s innocence and that this is all a lie made up by someone. So she may not be able to protect her kids if she doesn’t believe anything happened.
p.s. For background: I have written about Greg and Susan and problems with their kids before here: Child visitation advice needed: should you force kids to visit if they don’t want to?