I’m fairly inexperienced when it comes to sex, so this all takes place in my head, but…
Having a guy masturbate while fingering me/rubbing my clitoris. It’s even better if he starts repeating a phrase over and over, something like “You’re making me want you”.
Dirty talk. “I want to fuck you.” “Do you want me to come in your mouth?” type of stuff often does the trick when simply visualizing isn’t working.
Guy on guy sex is unimaginably hot to me. Heavy making out, lip biting, one guy jerking or sucking the other off. Mmm.
First of all, I cannot stand the word “kink.” It evokes people who’ve been totally vanilla, but who are thinking of trying something a little “naughty.”
That said, my partner and I really have no limits to our sexuality. There are damn few things that we haven’t done over the years, short of permanent injury. Someday I’ll start a thread about this.
I have a question for you guys- how do you get a kink in the first place? Is it something you’re born with, so that your romantic life is unfulfilling until the magic day you find a picture of a naked taxi driver making sushi? Or do you aquire a fetish? How?
(As I’ve mentioned before, I’m asexual, so I don’t understand vanilla, let alone kinks. So naturally, I’m curious as to what goes on).
I think you and I are very similar in this sense! I also like to write, and some of what I write is erotic fiction, and I love fantasizing in terms of what my characters would write. So a lot of it is a major turn on even if it’s not things I would myself be interested in doing, including some things that really freak me out in real life but are very, very hot in a fantasy headspace! (And since this is the sort of thread where semi embarrassing things are revealed, I will say the two things that have made me go very, very NO normally but through the mind of a character have been REALLY hot are…two people pretending they are siblings and describing their interactions as ‘brother and sister’, and…uh…pee. goes and hides in a bunker in Siberia forever)
It’s not always gay male characters, which it used to be and now is almost never, in fact I’ve been thinking mostly about lesbian stuff lately which makes me wonder if I’m not swinging toward the gay side of my bisexual orientation. But this is a tangent. Anyway.
Like someone else who posted in this thread, I have not had a lot of sexual experience. And in general, when I’m thinking about myself, I prefer very vanilla stuff. Beyond a little roughness and a little biting, that’s it. But there must be a little part of me that wishes she’d had girl- or boyfriends as a preteen because the first time I hold hands with someone … PHWOAR! It’s like every molecule of my body gets excited. (My electrons jump to the next energy level? something like that.)
I have a small variation on the foot fetish. I’m all for feet, but I get off a lot more if you’re in socks. Back when it was happening I would lay next to my then girlfriend and finger her, and 9 times out of 10 I would stare at her socks. If we are having sex, I would rather you be wearing only socks.
And last but not least…knee highs are the hottest things in the world, and if those knee highs are argyle…Oh holy shit…