If she’s hot enough, that shouldn’t be too difficult.
Like a nuke from orbit, it’s the only way to be sure. 
Yes, certainly the way I was acting was pathetic and awkward! No way to defend that, which is why I apologized and never do it anymore.
I’m not an expert on female paralanguage, but I’m pretty sure it was “shy” and not “uncomfortable.” When I said things like that, she would never clam up or try to move away from me. In fact, many a time she sat next to me and asked me some interesting things like, “You really think I’m so cute? Why? Aren’t you worried that he’ll (my friend, her boyfriend) be upset?” Also, I’m pretty sure that if she was genuninely uncomfortable, she wouldn’t have given me her phone number. She said, “Of course you can have it!” and I got the digits just like that (though I deleted them later when I realized what the hell I was doing). Either way, it’s over now and we (or I, at least) moved on.
I see that girl at least 3 times a week and I’ve detected no lingering weirdness…although I don’t really make much of an effort to talk to her and really only say “hi” and “goodnight” to her when I do see her. She sometimes tries to initiate conversation with me…I dunno if she feels uncomfortable or not. Signs would point to no, I guess. I certainly don’t.
This. Wait till a few months from now when the friend is cleaning up his mailbox and see this and wonders:
- What his buddy and his wife have going on?
(“Nothing!” op insists!
then)
- Why didn’t you say something to me about it?
I’ve heard that one can make a new beginning with the last breath one takes. So I guess a new beginning after 40 something years isn’t impossible. You can bet I’ll be calling her if Marcie and I don’t reconcile.
Heh!
Anyone know why the OP was banned?
If you have questions about a banning (and there’s no thread in ATMB announcing it), feel free to email or PM a mod. Generally it is because the person was a sock.
And with that, I’m going to close this thread. If anyone else is kissing a friend’s spouse and in need of advice, feel free to open a new thread.