So did you call the okay guy?
As a male, I have done this every so often, because I am risking NOTHING… So when I knew I wasn’t going to have the guts, time, was too in awe of beauty, etc, I would do it. It has worked once. I was an extremely good looking guy in my twenties, and it wouldn’t have worked otherwise, I bet…
These days, I wouldn’t want to go out with the type of person who would return the call if we hadn’t spoken…
But I am taken anyway.
Hooray for the intertubes!
Actually I was in a relationship so no. Even if I weren’t in a relationship however, he wasn’t good looking enough to warrant a call. I was still flattered. But it’s simply untrue to say “it’s creepy across the board”! People may have different reasons for this, but the reason I most suspect is that it’s never happened to them before and they’re either 1) jealous or 2) simply unaware of how they’d react.
When the guy is good looking (and not a douchebag, if you’ve been watching him for awhile) it’s flattering. It’s only creepy when it’s unwarranted or he’s quite bad looking.
Actually, I HAVE had this happen to me, and by guys that I had previously considered to be quite good looking. I found it to be creepy and arrogant, each time.
Yeah, I’m not sure why anyone would think I’m jealous over something like that. Different value systems, I guess; I expect to be treated/valued as a multi-faceted human being, not as a body and nothing else.
I suspect that the “it depends on how hot they are” crowd is too inexperienced to recognize the big fat red flag that it is. Once you’ve had to deal with someone who doesn’t respect you, you realize that it really doesn’t matter how hot-looking they are.
‘Creepy’ can be deliberately-uncaring, seeing the other as only a means to an end, but I wonder how many ‘creeps’ are actually socially unknowing?
MLS, your former boyfriend sounds scarily like me. I think I now understand why my last girlfriend broke up with me.