If you could see her, you’d know why I’m willing to wait.
Yes. But I’m not putting any pressure on her at all. She’s the one who is always saying she wants to stop smoking weed, get a “real” job (She’s a Hooters girl – she always says “I don’t want to still be working at Hooters when I’m 30.”) and she’s already cutting back on drinking.
About 18 months.
Can_Handle_the_Truth:
If you could see her, you’d know why I’m willing to wait.
Yes. But I’m not putting any pressure on her at all. She’s the one who is always saying she wants to stop smoking weed, get a “real” job (She’s a Hooters girl – she always says “I don’t want to still be working at Hooters when I’m 30.”) and she’s already cutting back on drinking.
Your entire situation is a foregone conclusion.
Heehee.
I realize now she’s a woman, but women can still have backwards ideas about things. Internalized sexism is a thing, too. So is projecting your personal experiences onto other people (which I understand, as it’s something I struggle with as well).
Can_Handle_the_Truth:
If you could see her, you’d know why I’m willing to wait.
Yeah this sounds like a totally promising and not at all doomed relationship.
I did enjoy my life partying and having fun drinking with friends and my boyfriend and stopped partying, drinking and smoking when I got married at 24.
Novelty_Bobble:
I met my wife when I was 17 and she was 18. I went to a club with her precisely once. Hated every last second of it and have never gone again. So I actually stopped before I was legally allowed to start but never mind.
We’ve been together over 30 years and married for nearly 26. You do need enough in common to bond you but having very separate interests in some areas is perfectly natural and healthy as well.
Declanium:
Went out 3x a week in college and early 20’s. Then down to just one night a week in late 20’s. Got married. Had kids. Now it’s a party at a friend’s house maybe four times a year? I prefer having friends over for a nice dinner.
Hedda_Rosa:
Late 40s and still partying; clubs or similar probably every other weekend. Large group of friends who are community leaders, business owners, executives etc and who do the same. Several friends DJ for fun or as a side-gig to their real jobs.
These are the types of responses I’m interested in. Wow, 3 posts out of 65 that actually answer my OP. And ther sure are a lot of self-righteous jackasses on this board!
Broomstick:
I never even started.
Guess I’m too serious about life or something. Or don’t have one. Or something.
On the other hand, never had to worry about date rape, STD’s, unwanted pregnancy, stalkers, abusive significant others, drugs busts, a criminal record, or hangovers, either.
I’m one of the most uptight inhibited people on the face of the Earth and even I know that most people “party” to some extent and are generally just regular people without many of those extreme experiences as a result of just socializing and having a little fun.
Oh, well you should have told us to tell you the things you WANTED to hear. I was totally thrown off by Can Handle the Truth . My bad.
Good luck. Drop by in 2 1/2 years and let us know how things go.
Speaking as one of the self-righteous assholes, once you explained why you wanted to know, I did answer your question:
puzzlegal:
Well, to answer the question for both sexes, based on the experiences of my friends, many of whole like to “party”, people who really enjoy partying when they are young adults continue to do it as they get older, but as their other responsibilities build up, they don’t do it as much as they did when they were young. But I remember going to a wedding once, and overhearing some young adults talking about my aunt, who was then in her 70s. They said, “wow, I hope I can party that hard when I’m middle aged.”
But yeah, I found your question weird and offensive. And I think your relationship is doomed if you need her to change in important ways.
