You mean you would turn away these fine men?
ETA: Just had to add this.
I’m not a lady but I can tell you that soon after we were married I decided to shave just for the heck of it.
For the last 25 years I have been under orders to never do so again.
So I guess you can put her down as “prefers”
I have to agree here. I feel kind of bad about it, because I’ve known plenty of men who grew beards out of religious obligation. I would never tell a man he had to shave (other than the one I’m married to, but he was clean-shaven when I married him, and even then, I know it’d be a losing battle if he’d made up his mind, but more on that below). There are some beards I don’t even like looking at, but I realize that is none of my business. The only thing that is my business is who I kiss.
My husband, FWIW, has a burn scar on one side of his face that was grafted with skin peeled from his leg, so even if he did want to grow a beard, he could grow it only on about 2/3 of his face. For that reason, aside from the fact that he personally doesn’t like beards himself, he would never try to grow one. He could grow a moustache, but he doesn’t like those either (whew).
My father had a moustache, and had it my whole life. I didn’t really see it, if that makes sense. I’m not sure how my mother stood 34 years of it, but it was always very clean, neat, and well-trimmed.
I could imagine a scenario of getting over it, if I were in love. If I really love someone, they just become attractive to me.
Fortunately my husband has no real ability or interest in growing a beard. He regularly teases me about shaving his head, though. He’s got a fluffy Italian curly fro going on, so it would be a funny change.
Eye bleach! Eye bleach!
WTF?
I know that if I grew my beard out, it would come in grey or white, and utterly ruin any chance I have of a date.
I don’t like facial hair of any sort. And short haircuts are my preference as well.
If a beard were meticulously groomed I could probably get past it. But the one guy I dated who had one, just no. If I go to kiss you two hours after dinner, and I smell the food in your beard? That evening’s going to end with barfing, not Whoo hoo.
And the whole goatee “just around the chin” thing? No way. Years ago a friend of mine dubbed that:
Pussy Mouth
and I’ve just never been able to un-see it.
At age 43, I started growing in may beard and it was mostly grey. Didn’t ruin my dating chances at all.
That’s my wife’s job.
Pretty much the same here. My moustache has been shaved once in my life 'cause the wife likes it (I do trim regularly). I took me over 50 years to finally grow a decent beard and she likes it, too. It’s all cool with me, I never liked shaving every day anyway!
My impression is that most people like, or at least feel neutral about, facial hair, and that I’m in the minority. I can’t do long hair, either. I really think it’s that I like access to all the parts. Long hair obscures the ears, and man-ears are adorable. I want the ears, the neck, the face. My husband’s hair, when it grows out, gets fluffy, not droopy, (think John Frances Daley) but I always get excited when he gets a haircut, because suddenly I can see/feel/kiss his ears.
I love 5 o’clock shadows (burn, baby, burn), and tolerate a very well groomed beard*. My husband shaves on about day 3 during vacations … sigh. By then he just has the best scruff happening. But it’s his face and his choice.
I would have to see a guy fully shaved before I would give him the time of day. Back when I had a choice, of course. And by seeing him I mean either in the flesh or recent-ish pictures. Because chins are one of those criteria that I looked at. For baby making reasons.
*jaw hugging or one of those few non-curly beards that hug the jaw line and grow from there.
Yeah, I’m down with 5 o’ clock shadow, at least.
Reluctantly tolerate.
My wife gets weak in the knees because of Kristofer Hivju.
She encouraged me to get a beard I’d guess three years ago, it probably had nothing to do with me having red hair as well. :rolleyes:
I have kept it since. Length may differ a bit, mostly because a longer beard is harder to keep in shape and I lose my patience with it. Always full though.
Thanks for the responses. I admit I am surprised that it appears more people here are either OK with, or prefer beards. My wife’s revulsion may just have something to do with me, perhaps.
When I do let the whiskers grow out some (if I am traveling and no opportunity to shave), the whole thing comes in grey-white now. When I shaved my head a few months ago for the first time, I let the beard come-in, but was so white/grey I looked like an old man (and I am not), so now the longest hairs on my head are my eyebrows! (yes, another revolting thing for my wife).
This thread is so old that it has grown a beard.