Ladies: How would you react if one of your friends offered to pay to see you naked?

In My Humble Opinion
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I’ve been trying to figure out a way to write this thread without coming off as totally creepy, and I eventually realized that the tone of this subject is going to have that effect on some people no matter how it is worded, so oh well…
Over the last couple of years, this subject has come up between me and some of my female friends. We’d be flirting, and I would say “I’ll give you $100 right now to flash me” or “give me a webcam strip show and I’ll paypal you $250”. In some cases I’m just talking, but in other cases I’m serious - I tend to be very curious about the female body, even with people I’m not otherwise attracted to. I’ve received a variety of responses, ranging from “WHAT? YOU’RE NUTS!” to “you don’t have enough to afford me” to someone (one of my ex’s who I later became friends with again) who agreed to do it-and we did both go through with it. One of my friends also told me that if some random guy in a bar came up to her and made that offer, she would do it, cuz it’s easy cash and she’d never see him again, but she wouldn’t do it for someone she would have to talk to again. I last had this conversation with one of my friends (probably my most attractive friend who I haven’t seen naked) last night which went on for a while. The offer was actually that I would pay her rent for a month if she came over to my apartment and hung out naked for a weekend - no touching involved. She said that I couldn’t put a price on her self-respect, and then I proposed a scenario where I won a lottery, and could suddenly throw a $1 million dollars her way, and she continued to rant about how she hates money and what it does to people. I finally asked if she wanted to go with me to the nude beach on Fire Island this summer, and she said “sure!” :confused:

So I suppose this asks a couple of questions to you:

  1. how would you react if one of your friends offered to pay to see you naked?

  2. if you WERE going to take the offer, how much would they have to pay?

  3. has anyone actually done this before, and do you have a story to tell?

just for the record, I’m not making this offer to anyone here (unless I happen to know you in real life :dubious: )

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  1. I’d say that friendship would be just about done. There are easier ways to find out about this female body you/he’s so ‘curious’ about. Plenty of women on Craigslist looking for work, and I’m sure they’d be thrilled about the no touching part.

  2. n/a

  3. Oh I get naked in front of my friends all the time, though it’s while I’m changing and most are straight females or gay males. If a guy has caught a glance accidentally or while skinny dipping, so be it. But as I wrote, if he made a serious offer of cash for nudity, he’d get a big ol’ creep brand from not only me but everyone I told. Posing for Playboy would be less weird.

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Are you a male? And how old are you?!

I would be startled in the extreme by a friend, male or female, who offered to pay me money to let them see me naked. I’d be worried that there were some feelings there that I wasn’t prepared to reciprocate, regardless of what they said. Then yes, I probably would be insulted at the thought that there was a price that could be paid for showing off my body merely to satisfy someone’s curiosity. That’s what nude pics on the internet are for.

Your friend is willing to go with you to the nude beach as a friend, not as a paid nude model.

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I’d think it was as creepy as hell, if they were being serious. :dubious: If it was like a dare in a bar (“I bet you $50 that you won’t do X”), I might take it depending on the situation. But why the hell would any of my friends want to pay me money just to see me naked? I can’t fathom the reasoning behind this.

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I would be seriously creeped out. There’s naked women all over the internet for free, so why would someone want to pay to see me naked? I would have to think that there’s some other, creepier motivation behind it than to just see a naked woman. To offer me to stay naked in your apartment for two days- beyond creepy and into full-on weirdo.

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Yep, totally creepy.

I’d be offended. It’s a serious breach of basic etiquette and the implications…I can see that type of offer being the last conversation I’d ever have with that friend.

N/A

Nope. I’ve flashed at concerts in my misspent youth, I’ve shown various parts of me to friends for comparison and discussion purposes (talking about stretchmarks or what a friend considering implants might decide on, fr’ex) and I’m not overly modest about changing clothes or showering when someone else is using the bathroom. None of those situation have a salacious connotation, though.

This is really odd. You’re just sitting around discussing the game or the bitchy new boss and you’re quietly thinking “Wonder what s/he looks like naked”?

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If an acquaintance or FOAF made the offer, they’d get :dubious: and a no, with no more discussion.

If a friend made the offer, they’d get :dubious: and a fairly involved conversation on trying to turn my body into an object that’s up for rent or sale. I can’t say the friendship would be over, but I will say that I would be very hurt by the idea that they’d think they could buy off me what I wouldn’t give them for free. (Clarification: I’m all about casual nudity, and I don’t mind other people seeing me naked. It’s the “purchase” aspect that really bothers me.)

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Ditto. Times two.

As in – friendship over, you perv.

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The way you present your request brings it very close to voyeurism. The reaction you are getting has nothing much to do with the request itself and a great deal to do with how you are presenting it. If all you wanted was to look at a naked female person, there are many ways to manage that without barter of any kind. Which makes one suspect that there is more at work here and gives people the creeps. And rightfully so.

  1. Unless they were an artist I would have a long talk with them and probably suggest they seek professional help. A shrink or a hooker depending on the situation.

  2. I have posed in the altogether any number of times and the cost depends on a lot of things. Posing for a painter while covered in a fair bit of wet kudzu costs a lot more than standing still for a photo session.

  3. not in the way you describe, no.

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I’m a guy, and I find that pretty creepy.

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One important part I forgot to mention about that conversation last night. I saw this ad on craigslist a while ago where someone was offering up a room in his apartment to an attractive woman - the terms were that the rent was free, but she would be required to be naked whenever the tenant was home - no touching or sex required. I mentioned this to her, which is where the “pay your rent” and “naked weekend at my apartment” terms came from. I do agree that actually going through with those terms would be awkward as hell for both of us.

Most of my friends DO find me creepy, and rightfully so, I guess, so it’s something they’ve come to expect from me.

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Offering money takes things out of the realm of friendship and into the realm of client and provider. This needs to be done very carefully in ANY area - childcare, building a bookcase, massage therapy. Everyone needs to be very clear on their boundaries, why they’re choosing to hire their friend (or work for their friend) as opposed to someone else, and what will happen to the business arrangement should the friendship sour or the friendship should the business deal fail. For these reasons, I’m very careful about taking any kind of work from my friends, although I do often chose to do it.

So, what do you get out of me being naked? If it was curiosity about the female form, then there are any number of free places you can get that need filled. If it’s curiosity about MY form, in particular, then I’m going to wonder why. Most men, when they are imagining a woman’s body, are not imagining her doing her taxes. And while I’m resigned to the fact that most of my male friends have probably thought about having sex with me, I don’t really want to hear about it.

What do you get out of PAYING me to be naked, as opposed to asking me to do it for free? Payment, most of the time, indicates control. If I’m paying a person to make a bookshelf, I’m expecting to have some sort of control over the wood chosen, the color of the stain, and the final size of the bookshelf. If you’re paying me to be naked, that tells me that you want to control me in some way, and controlling my body is outside my allowances.

So since I’m not okay with what I think you want to get out of it, I’m not okay with doing the job.

If you get something else out of it, say, you want to paint a nude portrait and need a model, or your a massage student and need a body to practice on, then that’s another matter entirely. If you’re 40 and never felt a breast and just want to see what the weight of a breast feels like and you ask me, I’d probably even let you touch my breast, honestly, as favor to a friend. But I wouldn’t take money for it. What you present in the OP* is* creepy.

And most of my friends HAVE seen me naked for extended periods - we hang out at clothing optional campgrounds. It would still be creepy if they asked me to accept money for hanging around their apartment nude. Clothing optional means it’s my option, not your prerogative.

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It depends on the person. Some of my friends I have, at some point, asked to just see naked, without any terms attached, long before this discussion ever came up. With some of my other friends, it was brought it up more as a “what if” discussion than an actual offer. There was one person, who after I asked, wanted to know “what was in it for me?” which is where the discussion of payment first came up.

It’s really just my curiosity of what a certain individual looks like. I can see plenty of women naked anytime I want…most people who pose naked for money (or just like putting themselves online), never look real enough to me.

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Like Astroboy, I’m a guy and find this pretty creepy. Even were I curious about what a friend looks like naked (and being a guy with plenty of female friends, that’s a lot of them), I’d never think to offer money to see them in that state.

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I think it’s perfectly natural for a man to wonder what his female friends look like naked. It’s how you present the offer and who you present it too. Women are beautiful and I love the female form. But there is just nothing better than seeing a woman YOU KNOW naked as opposed to some picture in Playboy of a woman you’ll never meet. It’s more erotic.

As far as asking a woman, you can do it in a joking manner, sitting around a campfire drunk and most of the time it wouldn’t be so creepy. Now, if you called someone up on the phone out of the blue and said, “Susie, I’ll give you 100 bucks to come over here and show me your pussy please”, THAT is a little creepy.

There are ways to approach everything. I personally think about what ALL of my female friends look like in the buff, but don’t nearly have enough balls to ask them flat out to get a peak. That is rather creepy. But most people know me as a pervert anyways, so I think I wouldn’t catch so much shit for it as opposed to someone else. ha.

About a year ago, it was me, my buddy Nick and a female friend of ours we both know and we were hanging out drinking cheap white wine. We were plastered and out of nowhere Nick said, “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours?” and she said, “ok” so he whipped his out for a minute or so and flopped it around and we all laughed.

When it was her turn she was trying to back out of it, but eventually pulled down her drawers and out popped a beautiful, shaved vulva. With it being kind of a puffy vulva, she even let me lightly squeeze it, after asking of course. It was a good time, we were all laughing and drunk and she actually started showing us more and more throughout the night without even being asked.

The type of person also means a lot too. If the person is go lucky, flirtatious and a little loose, your chances are better. If they are the type of people that are (no offense, that’s how you all are) on this site, then I would obviously think you better go elsewhere, which is totally fine, it’s just not some people’s bag.

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Do you really not see how objectifying and insulting your “friends” could result in them being offended? Do you not understand how offering a woman money to amuse you by being vulnerable is creepy?

Plenty of my friends have seen me naked. There was no discussion and certainly no bartering. If one of my friends offered me money to hang out at their apartment naked, s/he wouldn’t be my friend anymore, because that’s not how you treat your friends.

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I’m a guy with some disposable income and have a couple of platonic female friends I would drop a few fins to see naked, but would never have the balls to ask them- they’d have to make the offer.

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If it’s any comfort I don’t find your being a guy creepy at all.

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What happened to a bottle of tequila and a game of strip poker? That was the standard procedure for getting nekkid back in my day.

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“Would you strip naked for a million dollars?”

“Sure.”

“How about for a dollar?”

“Of course not! What kind of girl do you think I am?”

“We’ve already established that. Now we’re haggling over the price.”