As I was reading the responses, I was thinking to myself, I have never made a decision if a man was boyfriend material or not in 30 seconds. Usually it takes me a long time to get to that point to know if I want to sleep with someone or not.
But then I thought, that’s because almost all of my friends were doable. There was always a spark. No spark, no friendship. And I knew if I could be friends with someone within 30 seconds. So I guess it does apply.
Now it’s a little different-workers*, my friend’s spouses, fathers of my kid’s friends. etc.
My husband was a coworker, and although I got along with him well, I was in no mood for a relationship, and he didn’t have a BRIGHT spark at first. After a while he convinced me. We still have a great spark, even when I want to set him on fire.
*Although I will remark that at a company dinner, I was looking around at the dozen or so workers (all male) and thinking to myself, “Wow, I have some really hot guys working for me.” I had never thought too much about it, until we all were sitting at one table. Sure they are all different ages, sizes, personalities, and levels of attractiveness, but they all looked great. One of the bennies of working in a male dominated field.