I’m asking because I’ve recently got myself a new boyfriend :). This is great and I really like him and think the relationship has potential, however in the process I’ve lost what I thought of as two close male friends. One of them simply isn’t talking to me, and hasn’t done since my second date with my new bloke, and the other is barely civil to me - this is particularly awkward as we work together. Admittedly, both of these men have previously admitted to me that they would like to be more than my friend, but I explained at the time that I didn’t feel the same way, and I thought we’d got past that and become good mates. I should add that it’s not like they’re kids - one’s 28, the other 34 - so I would have thought they’d mature enough to handle it.
I feel really sad about this as they were both important to me as friends and I don’t know what to do about it. Was it me, was I simply giving off the wrong vibes? I don’t see how I could have been as I was completley honest about how I felt. Is it simply a matter of giving it time and hoping they come round? Or should I talk to them about it, 'cos it’s kind of a difficult conversation so start! Or should I just give up on platonic friendships with the opposite sex altogether?!