I always wonder why some men feel the need to say things like this. Is it because you honestly believe that women are only concerned with impressing you and will be happy to stop wasting time on things you don’t care about, or is it because you think we’re insufficiently devoted to impressing you and should stop wasting time on things you don’t care about?
FWIW, I hate shoe shopping and my modest shoe collection ranges from “sensible” to “butch”. But although many other women have different shoe preferences than I do, I think most of us select our shoes primarily to make ourselves happy. When a woman does choose shoes with the intention of looking sexy for someone special, they’re going to be shoes that are very noticeable indeed – like those high boots or FM heels.
Yeah, this is a bit like ‘We don’t notice your make-up and hair, so don’t spend so much time on them.’
Yes you do. You just don’t always know it. I don’t mean the brand or the details (those are for me and my lady friends), but if I walk down the street in flip flops or five-inch heels but exactly the same outfit, my body shape and stride will be different, and I will likely come across differently.
So I guess that cuts down by 50% the number of people who have noticed I’ve been wearing the same pair of shoes every day for the last 6 months, right?
Mostly because that’s the only reason they’re dressing up, whether to try and impress ladies in general, or doing it because their someone special likes it.
And don’t kid yourselves. A lot of women do it too. Sure, there’s an element of getting dressed to make herself feel better or to impress her friends. But there are women who obviously dress to try and impress men. And, for those women, it might be nice to know what men generally do and don’t care about.
That said, I also notice the shoes. But mostly because I know most guys don’t, and for some reason it seems to impress people that I notice. I mean, if they’ve taken the time to wear shoes that are fancy, then that’s definitely they enjoy, and, thus, a nice way to break the ice with someone I don’t yet know.
I’ll cop to being a woman who thinks a lot more about how men will see how I dress than other women: when it comes to clothes, I only hope that other women won’t think something I wear makes me look a. slutty b. fat c. slobbish. But not shoes.
It hasn’t ever occured to me that anyone who might notice what I’m wearing on my feet - including (toe) nail polish, ftr - would possess a Y chromosome. As someone who is missing the shoe-loving gene, I do find myself hoping that what is comfortable won’t be seen as too ugly, and it’s not guys I think would have an opinion on that matter.
I always wonder why some men feel the need to say things like this. Is it because you honestly believe that women are only concerned with impressing you and will be happy to stop wasting time on things you don’t care about, or is it because you think we’re insufficiently devoted to impressing you and should stop wasting time on things you don’t care about?
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Have noticed this myself. Especially in threads where guys talk about how the size zero thin models of high fashion don’t turn them on…we had one a while ago where guys were saying that if women should look at men’s magazines/porn if they want to know what really turns men on. It always kind of annoyed me–they’re both stupid unattainable ideals, but because one is prized by guys, it’s the one we should really strive for?
takes fist bump, then punches G-17 on the jukebox…
She’s totally committed
To major independence
But she’s a lady through and through
She gives them quite a battle
All that they can handle
She’ll bruise some
She’ll hurt some too
But oh they love to watch her strut
Oh they do respect her but
They love to watch her strut
Geez Louis. So I have “wasted” my money if you and your son don’t notice my shoes?
Do men really think this way? “Why is that woman wearing that? Doesn’t she know I don’t find it attractive/don’t notice it?”
FTR I wear high heels because I love the way they look, but the OP might find it interesting that I get just as many compliments from men as from women. A lot of guys are into shoes; just because you aren’t doesn’t mean that no other guy is.
Which is beside the point, anyway; when I dress up, it’s to meet my standards, not yours, and if that includes my red patent leather heels, I don’t see why I’ve wasted my money and time if YOU don’t notice or appreciate them.
This is one of the most clueless OP’s I’ve read in awhile.
I read the OP in the spirit of “OK dear, we’re ready to go out. We’ve been waiting to go out for 20 minutes. You’re still deciding what shoes to wear. We don’t care, it’s just dinner and the movies! We’re going to be late it doesn’t bloody matter!” Myself, I do like women who wear nice shoes and nothing else but come on let’s get a move on here.
No. In a man’s interpretation, perhaps it is, though I doubt you notice the length of the hem on a woman’s pair of dress pants or jeans. That’s fashion too.
Women want to be taller so that… they can be taller. They follow fashion to be stylish.
