If he asked? Probably not. If he hinted that I’d look good with this or that color, I might take it under consideration. but really, unless he offered to pay for upkeep, a new wardrobe to match, found me a non-carcinogenic dye…
Discounting a bit of silly experimentation in my teens, I have never dyed my hair and I never plan to.
I’m sympathetic to the respondents who say “no way” because they find it offensively subservient. If I had strong feelings on the issue (as I do with my name, for example, which I did not change when I married) it would be different. But for me personally, the hair isn’t that big a deal.
I’m really attached to my hair color. (It’s natural and I’ve never dyed it.) Happily my husband is too. I don’t think I’d react well if he asked me to dye it, but he never would. I would definitely not go blond. I’d look terrible as a blond.
As a pale natural redhead, I’d pretty much look like a mutant freak with any other color of hair other than red, so no. Especially not blonde. It has more to do with me and my preferences about my looks than my attitude about significant others.
Seems like a fair swap.
Heh.
I might, depending on how he asked me and what the color was.
No.
I don’t think my husband would ask.
My hair is white and silver, hasn’t seen dye for years.
Probably won’t either, unless I cut it very short and go magenta when I finally lose what’s left of my mind.
Just curious, would the OP dye his hair if his wife/girlfriend requested?
No. I’ve dyed my hair all manner of colours over the years and it’s always looked crap in any colour other than brown.
However, a friend of mine recently dyed her hair to cover up some grey because, apparently, her husband didn’t like the effect of ‘having granny bouncing up and down on his knob’ during sex.
Sheesh.
My husband has never asked, but I think the phrasing would have a little to do with it. The other factor would be if it would “work” with me. For instance, if he asked me to go dark, I’d have to say no…I’m pretty fair-skinned and I think I would look washed out and “gothy.”
I do highlights because my natural color is still pretty light. I’ve considered doing a bit of strawberry blonde in the highlights, and he seems open to the possibility that it would look good.
I can think of another way she could have solved that problem…
Meh. It’s just hair, I probably would. I don’t look great blonde, it washes me out, but I would do it so he could see how terrible it looks before coming back to red. I don’t think you were an asshole to ask. My husband has mentioned many times wanting to dye his hair black and I remind him that I like blonds (hence him and all my exes save 3 being blond) and he remembers why he doesn’t dye it black 
Wow. I need sleep, that was one heck of a run-on sentence, eh?
If I were dying my hair anyway and looking for a different color to try I might consider my husband’s request. However, if my hair was consistently the same color and I was happy with it, then no f’n way.
“You first.”
That’s my hypothetical answer to a request when I think the guy really doesn’t understand what all is involved. As others have mentioned, going blonde is a lot more work than going another color.
Also, my hair is one of my best features. Anyone who gets their hands on it comments on how soft, thick, and silky it is. I’m convinced one of the reasons my hair is in such good shape is because I leave it the hell alone. I shampoo and condition once every two days. I use no styling products, and I haven’t colored it in years.
Between the chance of wreaking havoc on my hair, the cost of bleaching and dying, the bother and cost of the upkeep, and feeling that something I really like about myself wasn’t good enough for him? I’m not saying I’d never do it, but it’s a slim chance.
That just breaks my heart.
Can I get a little reassurance from the men that wouldn’t say something like that to their wives?
Ugh. I agree.
To answer the OP, if he made a comment to the effect of, “That would be a great color for you,” I might consider it. If he asked me to make a dramatic change specifically for him, I wouldn’t do it and would be pissed off that he asked.
Of course, he knows how much it costs to color my hair (I have highlights right now that are just slightly lighter than my normal color), so I doubt he’d ever ask.
Depending what color her hair is naturally, red could be a lot less harsh than blonde, which is bleachy and can dry out and damage hair. Or she simply has an opinion about blondes, or blonde doesn’t look good with her coloring. Or she is offended you would implicitly say she would look better a different way.
Any one or combination of these could provoke a strong response.
For me, it would depend how it was asked. I wouldn’t want to be controlled or made to feel like they didn’t like my hair as is, but for fun or a different look, maybe.
Well, I do color anyway…
I’m very fair skinned, with blue eyes, so any color except black looks fairly natural on me. Blonde is not my favorite, though. But if he phrased it nicely enough, I’d try even black (can’t do blue/purple/orange/green, though, because of work.)
I dye my hair all the time, anyway, and rarely the same color twice. So if he asked me to dye it a particular color, and it was along the lines of, “Hey, I’d love to see what you look like as a blonde” or whatever, sure. As long as he understood that it was temporary and would not be a long-term permanent thing.
If he wanted me to permanently dye my hair a different color for him, then no.
Not to highjack too much, but here is a similar question: If you currently dye and I said that I wanted to see what you looked like with your natural hair, would you let it grow out?