This happened years ago ago so try to go easy on me if I was being an asshole. 
I once asked my now ex-wife (this was before we started having marital problems) if she would die her hair blonde for me. She flatly told me “no F’n way!”
I never pressed the issue at the time but it left me wondering why that request was so out of line. Especialy considering she dies it red all the time anyway.
I wouldn’t dye my hair at anyone’s request.
For the record, she may have resented the request to change herself, but she just as likely wasn’t interested in being blonde. Going blonde if you have dark hair is a pain in the ass. You don’t just “dye it blonde”. You have to bleach all the existing color out of it, and *then * dye it blonde. And then you have to do the roots every 4 - 6 weeks, unless you enjoy looking like you’re either too lazy or too poor to get your roots done. All that on top of the fact that she just may have felt it wouldn’t be a good look on her.
Yes, I have.
When I first met Ivylad, my hair was frosted (give me a break, it was the late 80s) so I was much blonder back then. My hair is normally an dark ash blonde. He has, over the years, asked me to dye it blonder and I have obliged him, although it is a bit of a hassle keeping up with the roots. Plus I don’t like to spend money on myself, so plunking down $9 for Feria seems a bit extravagant.
I wouldn’t go blonde for anybody. I’d look terrible. However, if the request was for a color that I might try anyway, I’d consider it, depending on how the request was phrased. For example, “Hey, I really liked that dark brown shade you had a while back, I think it looked great,” as a hint would get me to at least consider it, unless I had hated said dark brown. “I hate that reddish thing you’ve got going, please go back to brown,” would get you absolutely nowhere. Even if I hated the red myself. Because it’s my hair.
With my dark eyebrows and brown eyes, I would look ridiculous as a blonde, so no, I would not do that. However, if my husband asked nicely, yes, I would dye my hair a non-ridiculous shade to please him. He’s a fantastic human being and he doesn’t ask me for much. So I’d do it for him.
Doubtful. But it would depend on how dramatic the change was supposed to be.
I’m brunette. Not brown edging towards black, but definitely more dark brown than light. And I’ve got a few strands of grey.
I’m also lazy and not really interested in changing my hair color and definitely not interested in trying to keep up with my roots–much better to just let it stay it’s natural color.
So I wouldn’t go blond, but I might be willing to try the kind of haircolor which washes out with a few shampoos, or maybe a few highlights–especially if I’d been thinking about wanting a change anyway. Or, although I’m not sure it fits my temporary category, I might be willing to try a henna rinse and get reddish tones that way.
But I’m not sure I’d do it on a whim.
I wouldn’t do it. I’m Asian. I’d look weird with anything else except black, and my hair is so close to black there would be no point in dyeing it that. I also have long, fine, dark-brown hair, and dyeing it would be expensive, time-consuming, and damaging to my hair.
If my SO REALLY wanted me to do it, I might, but it would be a one-time-only thing, and he’d owe me big time.
My husband influenced my haircut, if that counts. He dislikes artificial anything like dye or makeup, so he wouldn’t ask for those, and he’s a true Sensitive Nineties Kind of Guy (despite coming of age in the 80s) and kept his opinions about my bangs to himself for six years. When he finally blurted out that he liked my hair better without bangs, and since I didn’t care all that much myself, I started growing them out.
Maybe it’s the asking to do it “for me” part. I was happy to do something he’d like as a sort of gift. I’d not like it so much if it was a command performance.
If it wasn’t going to be a huge pain, sure. I change my hair color often enough for myself as it is.
Yeah, I would–and have done on occasion. I have no problem with doing some things just to please him. After all, he grew a beard because I asked him to and he will occasionally wear western wear just because I love it so.
My husband thinks blue hair is immensely sexy. Not old lady grey-blue, but bright electric-blue. I’ve given some serious thought to going blue. My mother complains that I don’t act my age, and this would bug the hell out of her. Heh heh.
Same here. And we have actually had this scenario, as once in a while I do dye it auburn.
I can freely admit to becoming more of a bitch in my older age.
But even when I was younger and more pliable and actually would do things to please men, I wouldn’t do anything with my hair unless I wanted to do it for myself. I had a boyfriend once who kept haranguing me to let my hair get long “like a real woman.” Wow. By the time we broke up, my hair was so short I was nearly bald, because every time he said it, I cut another inch off.
Maybe if he used reverse psychology, and said, “Don’t dare change your hair color!” I would.
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No permanent color. Which includes blonde. It’s a pain in the ass to do, and will look TERRIBLE growing out. Not to mention that blonde hair doesn’t look that good on the vast majority of human beings.
I would be more than happy to wear a blonde wig for Adult Fun Time, though.
I dye my hair anyway to cover up the grey, so I’d consider it. However, I’d rather try a wig or temporary hair color before I went through the time and expense of dying it, especially if it meant a radical color change. What if I dyed my hair blonde and we both hated it? If I did it using conventional dyes, I’d be stuck with it for a few months. To me, it’s a slightly unusual and possibly unreasonable request, depending on how and why the request is made.
I asked my husband if he’d ever ask me to dye my hair a different color – it’s been reddish-brown over grey since before I met him – and he said he wouldn’t.
Nope nope nope. 'Cause I’m a natural redhead, and I’ve never dyed my hair at all.
Here’s a question–Of those that would, how many are already coloring their hair, or have colored their hair in the past?
As long as it’s a polite request and not a demand for change, sure. I don’t see why not, since it’ll grow out anyway and in any relationship, you trade off stuff. I’ve always seen it as just hair (the same reason that I’d up and cut all of it off even back in the days when I was dating and thinking I’m trying to be all hot and nonsense), time’ll pass quickly enough that it’ll do something different of its own volition if I don’t like and want to keep it.
No.
I do mine sometimes, purely for fun. I found this Feria shade that is almost black with a reddish sheen to it that I absolutely adore and will probably stay with; my natural color is a quite dark brown so it isn’t a drastic change. That also makes it easier because the roots aren’t going to be terribly obvious. I can’t see going lighter than my natural color. I’ve got my dad’s coloring and he had black hair. I did that once, but it wasn’t me.
I wouldn’t even wear a blond wig. I’d look silly. But I wish I had the nerve to go blue, sort of a navy. I’m pretty sure that’d be against the dress code at work, and I’m just not that dramatic a person anyway.
Would I “change my hair color for my man”?
No fucking way. My hair, my taste, my choice.
Hell, even asking me to change my hair color ‘for my man’ would put a serious a strain on my marriage.
OTOH, if my man suggested I try a new color or style, I’d consider it.
It’s an important distinction.