Wow. What an ass.
I would encourage you to make detailed notes of what happened, on the off chance that one of the waitresses files a complaint with the Human Relations Commission, or decides to sue for sexual harrassment. You wouldn’t want to get caught under the fallout of someone else’s decisions.
Hang in there, Lady Kate.
The guy didn’t deserve you, plain and simple. I know the loss hurts, but you are so much better off without him. It really sucks that you’ve joined the cheating ex club twice over now, but Deadly Nightlight is right. The best revenge really is living well. In time, you’ll see how much better your life is without him.
Big hug and a tall glass of whiskey to you…
Wow, sweetie. I wouldn’t consider this thread lame or a pity party. Sometimes we’re dealt unfair blows by life, but dealing with them and progressing forward (as you have been) helps out in the long run. Here’s hoping that you and your mother recover and are soon well, and that you can someday have a family with your daughter and a fine man that deserves you. They’re out there, I guess you just have to look a little harder sometimes. good vibes
Thanks again to all for the kind words and support. As a few have mentioned, I, too, am concerned about any type of legal action that may be pursued by the waitresses involved. So, I have scheduled an appointment with my attorney for tomorrow morning. SlutBoy/ChefBoy was not legally tied to the business in any way. He was merely an employee, so he has no legal rights to anything as far as the business goes. He couldn’t even sign checks or purchase orders. Although, I must admit that when in the process of drawing up the legal papers for the restaurant, I did consider naming him as an officer. Thank goodness I have a great attorney who was looking out for my best interest and didn’t let me do anything like that. As far as the karma thing? Yeah, I know he’ll get his. We live in a small enough community that the word has already started to spread about his, ahem, indiscretions. No way in Hell will that asshole ever work in this town again. 
That guy is a first-class prick. I mean, the kind of guy that drags all men down. He’s the guy people point to when they say that all men are assholes. I’m just sorry that someone like you had to end up with someone like him. Rest assured that very few of us are like that, and I hope you have nothing but the best in the future. Keep fighting the good fight!
Think big on this one: You want that jerk to never work in this business again.
I just thought of some really, insanely big leverage: If you need something out of pretty boy to get him out of your life, just let your lawyer drop a few good hints about you filing a sexual harrassment complaint, on behalf of your employees, against the ex-chef.
Buying a restaurant is hassle enough, without the added concerns for your health, and that of your mother, trying to raise a child, and an asshole cheating SO.
I’m so glad you’ve found out sooner than later, and proud of your decisive movement in the direction you’ve gone.
I hope he gets a karmic swift kick in the nuts, dear. The fact that you’re prepared to be happy outside of a relationship is definitely healthy for you though.
On a related note, can we have free food? 
I’m sure it sounds trite, but I don’t mean it to be- that asshole doesn’t deserve someone like you. I’m sorry you have to go through this mess.
Let me say first that I am IN NO WAY blaming you for what happened. That said, you deserve a good man to stand with you and help you, not hurt you. If you see a pattern of picking the wrong guy, maybe you could consider some counselling to see what attracts you to these rotten guys (and stomp it out!).
Wow. Having the support of so many people means a lot to me. Thank you again to all.
Scuba_Ben , I like the way you think.
GingerOfTheNorth , when I look at it the way you have it listed, I sound like SuperWoman, whom I most certainly am not. I guess it’s just that I’ve been dealing with my mother’s mental health issues for most of my life, so that is second nature to me; I’ve been pretty much a single mom to my daughter since she was born; and I’ve always been a work-a-holic, so while buying a restaurant is a lot of responsibility (much more than managing one!), I wouldn’t have it any other way right now.
Right now, life stinks. At least in a few major departments, it does. However, I know that it could be much worse. It can ALWAYS be a lot worse.
featherlou , you didn’t mention anything that I haven’t considered myself. No offense taken, either. 
Oh, yeah. Free Food For Dopers! Ya’ll can thank dutchboy208 for that!
Sorry to hear of your troubles, but have faith. Not all men are arseholes and your prince will come. As others have said, perhaps your best revenge will be to make the restaurant a success.
Cripes, you’ve had your share of bad luck lately.
Kate, let me tell you, had my husband been caught with another woman, HE would have been lucky to get out of that apartment alive. His betrayed FAR exceeds her betrayal. Ditto for your current boyfriend. The waitresses at your restaurant made no commitment to you and are not m/paternal figures to your child. Glad you got rid of HIM. However, I’d definitely talk to a lawyer before I fired all of the women involved.
You’ve got a lot on your plate right now. Hope your restaurant is a great success. Hope your health improves. And hope you can find a bit of time to devote to your daughter whose world has also been rocked in more ways than one.
Good luck to you.
Where’s the restaurant? I’ll come help you if your close enough!!! I could even find you a damn good head chef if you still need one. Someone I KNOW will keep his pants on too!!
As far as the walking testosterone bag… You are MUCH better off without him. If you ever need someone to talk to about your female issues/ cancer please feel free to drop me a line. I’ve BTDT and can lend an understanding ear.
Yeah what those guys did was pretty crappy. Especially the guy who cheated on you while supposedly watching the child.
Yeah, men can be pretty lame. But like featherlou said, even though it’s absolutely not your fault, you might ask yourself if you are subconsciously choosing “players.”
That’s great - I’m glad to hear that you’ve rolled this around in your own mind. It breaks my heart when I hear people talking about how the lovers they choose treat them like crap over and over, and it never once occurs to them that they’re the ones picking these losers. Not that it necessarily applies to you, of course - good women make stupid choices once in awhile without being psychologically damaged (looking at own self in mirror, thinking of some “wonderful” choices made earlier in life :rolleyes: ). Like Oprah says (I very rarely quote her, but when she’s right, she’s right), “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten.”
And free food for Dopers, eh? I’ll have to stop by when I’m in the neighbourhood. Which may be awhile, since I live in Calgary.
Thank you, Dutchboy.
Yikes. What a shit-storm. You have my sympathy.
Not to detract from your ordeal at all, but at least you got to fire them. That’s a bit of karma right there.
LadyKate, I remind you of a law in Texas: It’s legal to kill your spouse if you find them in flagrante delicto, at least in your own house. If you get married, you know where to live.