Add that I am not attractive, terrible w/ women, and pretty much a loser, and you can guess the rest.
I do not get high on life.
Well, doggone, pal, it seems like you’re having a bit of a rough spot.
I don’t know you, but I’ve seen you on the boards. The last three of your posts that I’ve seen (includes this OP) seem to indicate a spate of not necessarily comfy readjustments loom.
I’m sorry to hear it. I’d suspect you already know this, but sometimes it doesn’t hurt to hear it again: time is your ally. The current crisis will become history, and then you live the rest of your life.
I’m not very good at inspirational stuff, so that’s all you get from me.
Hang in there, my friend. Plan on next year.
Tough break to have to go through it all.
You don’t come across like a loser, so I doubt that you are. It’s natural to be kind of hard on yourself in times like these. Cut yourself some slack, friend.
We’re around when you need to talk about it.
You don’t strike me as a loser either.
And Zoe is right—the people here are a supportive bunch. We’ll be eager to help in any way we can.
'know what? I’ve been divorced twice. Married a total of 25 years. Does that make me stable or unstable?
Life goes on, as others have said. It just takes time. Keep believing what we’re telling you. Good luck out there.
What a shitty thing to say or feel about yourself. Why?
How have you done so badly in life?
This isn’t true at all man, you always come off as a likable person around here. As others have said, you will get through this, even though it seems like you will always be were you are at this moment. A few years ago I went through a breakup that was pretty rough, and it was tough. I ran the whole gauntlet of emotions, but what stuck in me the most was this false sense that how I feel this moment is how I’ll feel for the rest of my life. Since then I’ve done a 360 
, meeting the girl of my dreams and getting my life in order. Look at this time as a fresh start, a new beginning.
Good luck.
js – we’ve never talked, I don’t think, but we often end up in the same threads, and you’ve always struck me as an interesting guy.
Yes, it sucks – but hang in there. It’ll be okay, sooner or later.
When my first wife left me and moved in with another guy I felt the same way about myself.
Of course now I have another wife who is wonderful and perfect.
Have you considered the idea that she is the loser?
Come on, PIT HER! PIT HER BIG TIME!!!
Attractive isn’t always about the outside appearance. Some of the most physically attractive people are down right ugly on the inside.
You’re probably just out of practice. How long have you been married? A lot of guys I know don’t have guydar[supTM[/sup]. Maybe you are one of them. My husband doesn’t always know when someone is flirting with him. I am not sure if he even knows the signs to look for.
My advice is to relax, take a deep breath, let it out.
If she just asked for a divorce, give yourself time to grieve the loss of the relationship. Don’t jump into another one so quick you don’t have time to yourself. I have never been divorced, but I did come very close this fall. I was ready to walk away from everything, just to get out of a marriage that I hated. One of the things I was most afraid of was being alone. I wasn’t scared of living alone, but being alone. In hind sight, I realize that was probably the way most people feel. However, if one goes from one relationship that is not so great into another without taking time to get to know ones self, they really aren’t setting themselves up for success in the next relationship.
Does that make sense?
Big hugs to you, js_africanus, if you need someone to vent to, feel free to email me.
I’m sorry this happened to you. I agree with what the others have said. I don’t know you except from your posts and you always have something interesting and intelligent to say. You are not a loser.
I hope things get better for you as soon as possible.
I forget how cool the people at the SDMB really are. You guys rock.
For the record, my apologies if you know this already, Petrarch was a 13-or-14th century French poet who had a striking platonic love for a married woman. She inspired a whole host of poems and, although I really don’t enjoy verse so I can’t recite any, his catalogue of poems about her are pretty famous in some circles. I forgot to include this link in the OP. Sorry about that. She’s the one getting the divorce from her husband, a guy who is not me.
Once again, let me apologize if I’ve misread the replies and my metaphore did get through. (I should have linked to Petrarch as well…)
And, once again, you guys are the best.