So, I’m divorced.
I left my husband back in October of 2010. Best decision I ever made, though my post-marriage life hasn’t exactly been easy.
My divorce was finalized this past August. Since then, many people have been telling me that I really ought to start dating, before I join the ranks of the permanently undateable.
The thing is–the mere idea of dating makes me feel very tired, even after almost two years of living on my own. I really feel like I don’t have the time or energy to deal with it. And, for whatever reason, romantic entanglements obviously don’t work out very well for me. See the aforementioned divorce for evidence supporting that claim.
And before you ask–I don’t do flings well. If I sleep with someone, I feel bonded to him. I realize that makes me crazy and clingy, but that’s how I am. It’s not voluntary, I promise. For me, at least, oxytocin is a powerful and dangerous thing. So I kind of have to do the friends first, get to know you slowly thing. Any other approach leads to unhappiness at best.
I’m calling upon the collected wisdom of the Dope to provide some insight, here. If I decided not to date for several years, would I really be SOL if ever someone special came along? FWIW–I’m 38 and have already become invisible to men. The probability of my meeting someone is already close to zero. I know my chances are only going to get worse with time.