To start with, I should state that dating has not been a regular social ritual in the UK until recently, so there may be US-based “rules” that don’t apply here. That said, it might just be that I haven’t really ever dated in my life and don’t have a clue…
I have been in two long-term relationships over the past eighteen years, both of whom were friends first, and my recent disastrous girlfriend jumped on me at a party, so there was no formal process in any of these coupledoms.
Anyway, ever since a friend of mine learned I was single, four months ago, she’s been aching to set me up with her single friend. I did not feel ready for several months, but finally capitulated a couple of weeks ago. Exchanged a few emails with the girl, and finally we agreed to meet for a blind date.
Despite my nerves and misgivings, I felt very comfortable with her immediately, and found her very attractive too.
Our Wednesday night date started out at 8.30pm, and didn’t finish until 2am Thursday. We got on like a house on fire, and talked and talked all night. When I finally walked her to a cab, she said “Call me!” and I said “I’d like to see you again.” She smiled and replied “Good. Me too.” We kissed on both cheeks, and when her cab passed me, I saw her turning her head right around so she could watch me walking down the street. She didn’t know I could see her.
Then after I got home, I got a text from her that said “Had a really nice night tonight, hope to do it again sometime soon x”.
The next day she texted our mutual friend, asking if she’d heard what I thought of her. My friend replied saying I thought she was “lovely”. (I had actually used the word “fantastic”.)
She replied saying she thought I was “a really nice guy”.
Uh oh… “Nice”: the subject of a controversial concurrent thread. Alarm bells?!
So I waited two days, then called. She didn’t answer, so left her a voicemail last night saying “Fancy meeting up sometime this weekend? Give me a call!”
Since then, I’ve heard nothing.
Me, I’m deluding myself with “she’s busy” or “she’s waiting two days before getting back to me”, but suspect this may be false hope. And also, people generally do what they feel inclined to do, don’t they? If she wanted to hook up this weekend, she’d have got in touch.
I have an added concern: my ex wife rents her apartment from this girl’s best friend. We didn’t discuss past relationships, so I am worried that she might have found this out, and thought I was concealing something by not mentioning that I am just about to be divorced. I was going to tell her on our second date.
Or perhaps, and more likely, I have fallen into the “nice” trap, and she’s uncomfortable with the news that I think she’s “lovely”.
Anyway, I’m trying not to invest too much emotionally in this. Except for her being like, totally lovely, and checking every one of my boxes in terms of the kind of person I’m looking for. :smack: