My mom and I always argue over this. Some nights, my son isn’t very hungry and doesn’t have a big dinner.
He eats well. He always has breakfast, they have a snack at school in the morning, and I know he has a good lunch (he is on an eating program at school…they report how/what he eats to me). But some nights he doesn’t want to eat much. That’s no problem for me. This is only about 1-2 times a week on average. The other nights, he eats very well. He’ll have a big plate of veggies (sometimes meat, but not always)and want seconds. So, because he eats well on those nights, I don’t worry if he’s not that hungry once in a while.
My mom, on the other hand, believes that you should eat every night at the same time. There are times when he’s not hungry at the allotted time so I don’t force him to eat then. I believe that eating when you’re not hungry is a bad habit to get into to.
So, I feed him his supper when he’s hungry, and only the amount that he wants. Mostly, when he’s not all that hungry, it’s just a small plate of veggies. Otherwise he does eat very well.
Is that so wrong? As long as getting his nutrients, does it matter what time he eats it, or how much? Some people say that’s bad because then he’s telling ME what to do and therefore I’m spoiling him. I’m not letting him tell me what to eat, just when he’s hungry. I still dictate what the menu is (and it always consists of potatoes, meat, and veggies). And he eats what I make, not what he wants me to make. And we’re not eating at weird times (like after 8 at night or something). It’s usually in the 5:00-6:00pm range. But if he says he’s not that hungry and only wants a little amount of that all that food, why should I force him to eat more?
Sometimes life is so great you just gotta muss up your hair and quack like a duck!