A can of whip cream is good - you spray a little on say her nipple - and then lick it up but don’t swallow it - and then kiss her so she can suck it out of your mouth. I don’t know why - but it’s one of the sweetest tastes i’ve ever had when i was tied up.
**Knead **is right - the anticipation is the key. Hearing you make noises - not knowing where you are going to touch us next - first on the left - then on the right - first with a feather - then with a (make-up) brush . . .
Threatening things you will do while they are out of control is also key - like emailing photos to one of her girlfriends to see if it will turn them on - etc. Don’t actually do it - we don’t want to have a heart attack - we just want to have our heart race.
I’m the girl that likes to be tied up - and I will agree emphatically with the fact that the inability to get loose is also key. If I can get away easily - the fantasy falls apart.
Here’s the other thing: everything in your house is a toy! Scarves, leaves or flowers, cold things, warm things, the back of a spoon, the cap of a pen. Sex toys can be expensive - but bondage toys are limitless if you think hardward stores and craft shops and even Target.
Realize too, that you should blindfold us first - then undress us. Take pictures - the clicking sounds enthrall us. Touch us lightly - trace your fingers gently - go fast then slow.
Walk away for a while - make us wonder where you are and what is going to happen next - open and close a door - walk up and down the stairs.
When you take away one sense - other senses are heigthened - like smell and hearing . . . .
Most importantly - make sure you have your safety words ready. THIS IS A MUST!! Randomly, days before the event, discuss what word means stop, what word means take it easy/slow down, and if you intend to gag her at any point - make sure she can tap her hand or foot instead (like 3 times or more for no - twice for slow down - etc.) Use ridiculous words that won’t come up in normal sex times - words like rutabaga or zimbabwe . . .
And you have to respond immediately if she uses the safety word - just communicate what’s good and what is not. Talking is the key.
And afterwards, when it’s over and you are in another room - talk about what each of you liked and didn’t like. And when you are in the store - you can think of other things that maybe you can use.
I know you said she is as clueless as you - why not sit down together at your 'puter and go to Tube8 or Youporn and type in “bondage” “bdsm” or “fetish” and watch some porn to figure out what you like and don’t like? Make that a discussion point.
I could go on and on
–the girl who loves light bondage