Agreed completely. It was incredibly nice of you guys to clean everything up while she relaxed in the shower- as guests, that wasn’t your obligation but it was a definite nice thing to do. For you guys to clean her apartment (after her party) and then for her to freak out about some lipstick on a mirror. . . yeah.
I would probably be a little irked if my friends used my makeup for something like that (you probably smooshed up the lipstick, right?), but I’d think it was hilarious. After I was done laughing, I’d (laughing still, but with a hint of sincerity) casually mention how *someone * owes me a new lipstick for Christmas. Actually, I’d only do that if it was one of my expensive lipsticks (Chanel, MAC, etc- $15-$25 a tube); if it was a $5 grocery store one, I’d just let it go and appreciate the joke.
And c’mon - while lipstick isn’t the easiest thing to clean off of glass, it isn’t like they took a Sharpie to it. Whenever I need to blot my lipstick and I’m in a hurry, I just kiss my bathroom mirror. It doesn’t clean itself up later on, but give me 30 seconds, a towel, and some Windex and it’ll be taken care of. While I understand her glass may be a little different or perhaps it was super cold so the stuff bonded differently, but there is no. way. in. hell she spent 15 minutes and still couldn’t get it off- unless she was scrubbing with a Q tip and some spit.
Go shell out $2 for some makeup remover towels at the store (the wet kind), go over, scrub her window for the 10 seconds it’ll take, and leave her the box for the future.
If you’d made a smiley face or something cute then she may not have gotten so upset but redrum is sinister, especially if you happen to spot it in the middle of the night after all of your guests have left. (Or did they all actually leave? :eek: What was that little noise just now?) She probably didn’t get the best night’s sleep after that, which gave her ample time to get even more stressed out and cross that line into overreaction territory. She may calm down in a day or two or it may take longer.
What you did was dumb but you know that now. Go apologize to her. When come, bring pie. Humble for you and triple chocolate creme for her. If it takes a while for her to forgive you, try not to worry about it too much. This is one of those life lessons that will make you a stronger and better person down the line.
I think she overreacted a bit. I imagine it’s especially galling to get etiquette tips from someone who would leave a party she was hosting to go take a shower, and leave her guests to clean up the party mess…
Still, it upset her, you know it upset her, and it was her lipstick and her window. I think you’d better go ahead and apologize. No need to grovel – just give her a call and say, “I’m so sorry I pulled that stunt with the lipstick. I was trying to be funny and it fell flat. I hope you got it all cleaned up? If not, I’ll come over and take care of it for you. And, of course, I will replace your lipstick as well.”
I don’t know that I’d classify myself as humorless, and I rarely go into hysterics, but if someone did that to me I’d be really pissed. I wouldn’t lose a friend over it, but I’d think twice about inviting that friend over again. It is disrespectful on a number of levels, as well as being really immature.
I don’t blame her for her anger at all.
And while I’m at it, you damn kids can get the hell off of my lawn.
I’m going to agree with Diosa - I might be mildly annoyed depending on the type of lipstick, but other than that I’d find it rather amusing (albeit juvenile), assuming it’s a close friend. (If a stranger did it I’d be creeped out.)
We don’t want to play on your lawn anyway, mister. You’re no fun, so *sticks tongue out and runs off with her college co ed friends to have pillow fights and someone else’s house *
Lipstick is easy to take off with a razor blade swiped very carefully down the glass. My cousin and I used to do leave messages in lipstick and eyeliner, and I would use the razor to get the majority of it.
aughh, thank you, you guys! I’m always very sensitive to friends being angry about things I didn’t mean. I really hope this doesn’t cause a lasting effect. for the record, we’re both 25. Bringing a box of makeup remover is a good idea; I think she only tried windex.
Ridiculous overreaction, in my opinion. I leave little lipstick messages for my husband on his bathroom mirror…never had a problem getting it off. Even using the more expensive stuff, with a light touch, it doesn’t ruin the lipstick.
I was back home and Mom and I decided to stroll around downtown. We passed the office of one of my best High School buddies…a dentist now…and I took out my lipstick and wrote I Heart JXXX. He and his office personnel thought it was hilarious and he knew exactly who did it.
What is this super duper lipstick being used that is so amazing that it can’t be easily cleaned off of a mirror? I’d be afraid to use it on my lips!
The only thing I can think of is that super long wear stuff- but that doesn’t look like lipstick, rather it’s in a tube like lip gloss and you have to put a top coat of special clear stuff over it. Even then, that stuff comes off with a little oil, as well.
Seriously? Have you ever seen that body lotion with glitter in it? Once you brush up against that stuff there is no getting it off. You’ll be living with if for the rest of the day at the very least, and may still find a stray sparkle in odd places for a week afterwards. Anyway, I think it’s too big a job for a single razorblade and seems to require a large kitchen knife. I was too nervous (and quick) to undergo the procedure, and the GF didn’t seem to be concentrating that well, but I think it works the same way.
I’ve had my entire car covered in whipped cream–it was my last day at the job and it was “traditional” to cover both the person and their car with dessert-related food–and THAT was a freakin’ nightmare to remove. Greasy as all hell, and I couldn’t just take it to a car-wash because I couldn’t see out the windows well enough to drive.
Even so–even with my hair coated in caramel and chocolate and my car basically deep-fried–I tried to be a good sport about it.
Lipstick writing on a window?
Please.
I second the razor as the most efficient removal method.
As for what removed her sense of humor and perspective…one can only guess.
Major overreaction. Lipstick cleans off of mirrors and glass really easily, you just need Windex and some paper towel, sheesh. It won’t cause any stains or lasting damage. AND HER GUESTS CLEANED UP AND DID THE DISHES.
I don’t know what she was doing that she couldn’t get lipstick off of a window after 15 minutes, unless she was trying to hand the paper towel to one of her hemorrhoids and have it do the work for her, sheesh.
